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Another stepmom bites the dust!!! That would be me! Filing for divorce Monday.

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Submitted by Hatecopycats on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 5:32pm

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Well after 2 years of taking care of my dh from his leukemia and dealing with his piece of shit ex wife and 4 crotch droppings, 3 of which have PASed out.

If you see my previous blog, my bio son beat ss butt for calling him a n***** and spitting in his face.

Since that time dh has been a total prick and excusing ss behavior while demonizing my son.

I'm just tired, burnt out, beat down, disrespected and just DONE.

I told dh last night I wanted a divorce....no therapy, no talking things over, no working on solutions. It is freaking OVER.

Dh left last night and comes tomorrow to get the rest of his stuff. I am SO glad I never added his name to my home when I bought it 8 years ago.

I can not describe the relief I feel and just the happiness of knowing I will never have to deal with his ex wife or kids again!!!

I'm focusing on my kids and my life now.

I close out our joint accounts today and have a check waiting for him, BUT I hope he doesn't try to go after money I had before we got married.

Will I miss him?? Sure, probably....will I miss my life with him??? HELL NO!

I gave it my best shot and I failed....period.

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Submitted by briarmommy on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 5:44pm

If you have money from before you were married, take it out in cash now, put it somewhere safe. He can try to go after accounts but its hard for him to go after cash. If you trust a parent put it in a lock box somewhere at there house, it was your home before you were married so you shouldn't have to worry about that, but I'm not sure about money. I would pull it out of the accounts if you think there is a chance of him going after it, just to play it safe.

I'm sorry it came to this for you, but now you can move on and do whats best for you and your kids.

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Submitted by Shannon61 on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 5:51pm

I too am sorry you're ending your marriage. I wish you the very best going forward. Stay encouraged and I hope you find the peace and happiness you deserve. Smile

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Submitted by ladyfosho on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 6:22pm

{{{Hugs to you}}} Ad I agree with PP, you did not fail. I hope something more wonderful is waiting for you after this.
And I just have to say.... crotch droppings is my new favorite term for kids. Thank you for that Smile

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Submitted by Hatecopycats on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 8:02pm

Thanks Snarky!!

It has been very rough...the marriage that is. Although I love DH I love myself more. I just was lost, didn't have a self and felt so stressed all the time.

One thing that makes me feel less sad about the whole situation is I can sleep at night with a perfectly cleat conscious ....I gave it 110% ....not many people can say they were married and their DH got leukemia 3 weeks after the wedding and lived in the hospital for 3 mo this with their spouse and then support the whole family finically for the next year and half due to his stem cell transplant.

I went above and beyond, truly.

I can live with myself knowing I was kind, loving and gracious through it all. I hope he can live with himself in the dark of night when there is nothing but your thoughts

Thanks for all the support over the last 2 years..so many of you are truly an inspiration and I wish all of you the best and a happy life.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 8:09pm

Oh wow I am so sorry honey - but also completely understand your relief!!! I hope things get better from here dear - HUGS!!

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Submitted by LizzieA on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 8:11pm

Sorry to hear this! Your STBX will certainly regret losing YOU! I can't believe he supported SS calling your son such a hateful name. That's is really low.

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Submitted by rancherswife on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 8:51pm

You are a great lady...HUGS TO YOU!!! You will go on to a better place, and a happier life!!! Never look back!!!

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Submitted by Bubbly1 on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 8:56pm

Men don't know a good thing till they lose it. I'm very sorry you've had to tolerate so much. Only to end it anyway. You will be in my prayers. Big bear hug to you and your kids, you're gonna be fine though, from what I've read, its his loss. Good luck!

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Submitted by CalgonTakeMeAway on Fri, 08/12/2011 - 10:54pm

I'm so sorry...more hugs to you! This door has closed, but a whole lifetime of doors are opening..good luck to you!!

Oh, and I cracked up at "crotch droppings"!