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Meeting BM -quick q

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Submitted by Kirby24 on Sat, 07/02/2011 - 9:33pm

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Hi
I have been going out with my partner for 2 years and he has 2 kids. Today we ran late shopping as he was supposed to pick the little boy up at 4pm and I was like - oh I can swing by now and we can pick him up in my car, as it was on the way (he lives 1 mile from BM). However he wanted to go home and get his own car (which was tracking back on himself). He was like uhhh I don;t want to keep you waiting (?). I just felt he didn;t want me talking to BM. I have met her once briefly.

He ended up staying 45 mins whcih peed me off anyway, but i know that hadn't been his plan.

Is this odd?

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Submitted by unbelieveable on Sat, 07/02/2011 - 9:41pm

WHY did he STAY 45 minutes? A mile away? In her house? A pick up is a pick up. That's ridiculous and this feels fishy to me. You've been together 2 years and you can't go with him for a pick up? I ride along on almost every pick up and drop off...as we are stuck doing both - and FDH gets offended IF I do not want to go and I put a stop to BM flirting with my man and basically getting in the damn car - I hate her. She forgets they are divorced - calls and tries to talk to him about nothing...asks him to go to dinner with he and the kids...used to come in his house and hang out. hahaha. I just feel like boundaries should be set. Now the kids are ready and waiting on the curb.

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Submitted by Kirby24 on Sat, 07/02/2011 - 9:52pm

Thanks unbelievable. Got your message after I posted again. He said he stayed as his little girl wanted to talk about her school project.
We don't live together so i am not usually here when he goes around to pick them up, however I will go with him in the morning when he leaves them back. Just thought it was odd he didn;t want me to come - he said he would go as it would save me waiting. Still feels a bit euch Sad

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Submitted by unbelieveable on Sat, 07/02/2011 - 10:29pm

This situation just makes me really uncomfortable. Why wouldn't he wait until he got her to his house to talk about the project? I just ask alot of questions...the mind does weird things.

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Submitted by roseslady2 on Sun, 07/03/2011 - 2:45pm

It's possible he still hopes to get back with BM. Youmight want to contact her on your own if you're that worried. Maybe he is worried what things she'll tell you about their relationship. I would have realized a lot more about my DH had I talked to BM about their split before we got married. It definitely would have given me a better idea of what to expect once the honeymoon stage was over.