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Adult skids and in Laws will

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Submitted by sixteensmom on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 1:32am

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My mil and fil are in their 80s.
They've recently updated their will.
Dh has two siblings and three kids, and I have three kids.
Their estate is to be divided into 4.
One quarter to each kid, the remaining quarter to be divided equally between all the grandchildren, INCLUDING MINE. This is not going to go over well at all!!

Dh three kids don't speak to their grandparents much. They don't call or write or take time off work to see them when they're visiting. They don't invite them to dinner or to sleep over. They don't send cards or thank you or buy gifts for chirstmas. My three kids do all those things for them.

Should I try to talk them into changing this?

MY Parents won't leave his kids anything. They despise the skids and hate the way they've treated me all these years.

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Submitted by Still Have Hope on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 5:57am

Your ILs made their choice. Let that choice speak for itself. Respect the decision they have made.

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Submitted by sweetthing on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 7:48am

Echo, she is worried that the skids will be mad because the inlaws are leaving an equal share to her children.

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Submitted by NancyL on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 7:54am

This does not make any sense to me. Your ILs included your children in a will to get the same thing that their birth grand children are getting and you are complaining about it.
Your children are very lucky to be included and to say anything gives one the impression that you are just in it for the money.

Either way its a gift not an entitlement.

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Submitted by novemberm on Tue, 06/21/2011 - 10:38am

Hi,

New here, hi to all! I don't see sixteens mom as complaining, I see it more as her worrying about what kind of fallout will be caused by this. I do agree that nothing should be said. I totally understand about the worries, because I have seen how money makes people nasty and crazy! Sixteensmom does not want or need more drama.

Sixteens mom, your inlaws made a loving decision, and your skids will find out when that day comes. They will have no choice but to live with that decision, and maybe they will just accept the fact that their grandparents were generous people.

Do not talk your inlaws into changing their will. That would probably-definitely hurt their feelings.

Best of luck!