SD's birthday party from hell
Between SD (3) and MIL I am going to lose my mind. MIL VOLUNTEERED to throw a party for her, NO ONE ASKED HER TO! DH and I brought 2lbs of hamburger and hot dogs, plus rolls and chips for everything naturally. We arrive and DH starts up the grill to stay as far away from everyone as possible while I tried to hang out with his sister and avoid MIL from hell and SD as much as possible.
After eating a friend of the family who was there paid my H some $ he owed him and MIL stuck her fat hand out right in DH's face. I thought she was joking but apparently not bc when I laughed it off and said 'that's my money' she got all indignant and said
"I spent $24 on HIS DAUGHTER'S bday cake if anyone deserves $ it's ME". Like seriously you crazy beotch??! Thankfully DH has enough sense to not give in to her craziness.
So that passed we went back inside and DH retreated to the family room/SD's toy room to try to take a nap, he asked me to rub his shoulder and as I was doing that the darling bday girl SD herself comes up and shoves my hand off of him and tells me to "get off of him" I told her HE wanted me to rub his shoulders and to knock it off, and as always DH backed me up. This is another trait the little angel has been doing, if I touch DH in any way she will tell me to stop it. What is up with that? She's 3, he is her father, not her boyfriend!!
Amazingly this all happened within 2hrs, at which point we left, as I had a headache, surprise, surprise!
We hadn't planned a party at
We hadn't planned a party at all, there are no other small kids in the family and she is too little for friends, so I didn't see the point in planning anything (esp since she's 3 for God's Sake she doesn't even really get it ya know?). MIL was all full speed ahead and called and told us when it was and when to show up basically, then expects us to pay her back for the cake she wasted $24 on? I think not. FWIW darling little SD already swats people for next to no reason, that's why I am keeping my LO I am pregnant with now as far away as possible from her!
Oh she totally oversteps and
Oh she totally oversteps and tries to do it with my unborn baby too! SD gets dropped off for visitation at MIL's house, not ours, and they keep her mostly, which they say they want to do, but then they call us and bitch and say my DH doesn't do anything and he needs to be a better father to her and on and on and on.
No it's not legal visitation,
No it's not legal visitation, it's an agreement between MIL and SD's maternal GMA, bc of the hostility between DH and BM's family.
That's how she is, they are
That's how she is, they are not wealthy people, but they live way way above their means, and do all this stuff and then complain about not having money.
I know in my family, we throw
I know in my family, we throw birthday parties for all the kids, right down to the one-year-old. He probably won't remember it but it's a lot of fun to look back at those photos. Sometimes it's at my house, sometimes it's at my stepsister's house, and sometimes it's at my mom & stepdad's house.
Honestly, I think you, DH, SD and the in-laws need to see a family counselor because the underlying issues that seem to be present haven't been addressed. I also think it could be good because DH seems to have a lot of resentment towards SD, and a therapist could help him work through that.
If BM's family is as loony as you say, I worry about SD's future. She's got a father who resents her and the people raising her are nutcases.