So the BM called my Dh today to say she was filing contempt charges on him because he was supposed to pay her a part of his bonus money he got in February. The court order stated for him to pay the DOR, so he tried to do that a couple times. The DOR sent him the money back saying that they couldn't enforce the order the way it was written. So my DH went to the courts to try and get the order amended to pay the BM directly, because DOR says NEVER to pay the BM directly. He obviously had to wait to hear back from them, they denied his request. So far that had taken up a month. So he tries to make arrangments to pay BM directly, she wants him to come alone, to bring his paystubs from the last 3 months (she only needed to see the redacted paystub with the bonus info, and even THAT wasn't in the court order)...he says no he won't give her all that, so she says she won't meet him and take the money. Then she files a motion to get more money, and add in the bonus money (roll the gross amount into his pay, which the judge already told her he couldn't do because it fluctuates so much). So obviously while we were waiting to find out the verdict of what she filed, he didn't send the money to see what would happen. This took almost another month. We just found out last week that it was denied, we talked to the lawyer, and my Dh was making arrangements to just send the money and be done with it because he didn't want her to get mad and file contempt (although he has tried to pay it several different ways, has the copies of the texts he sent her, the returned check from DOR, the denial court document).

So she calls him today (and my DH said it sounds like she was at the courthouse) and tells him that she is filing contempt, plus she is saying that there's a deduction in his bonus money (stock purchase) that she is entitled to. The judge ALREADY did the math, saw that deduction, and made his ruling for my DH to pay a percentage of the NET amount (which is everything after deductions, taxes, etc) of the bonus, which was ok because this is additional suuport. So is he ok? The additional amount she is fighting for is $40. He put the check in the mail today; she told him on the phone if he didn't send all the paperwork "she requires" plus the additional $50 she won't take the money. WTF. And then she tells him he's going to go to jail for this. Of course now I'm panicking. We knew this would happen; she's pissed because she wanted more money and it got denied. I'm hoping this makes her look even worse with the judge.

So what to y'all think? Would he be in contempt? How about now that he's mailed the check off (she should get it tomorrow). I know it looks "bad" it's been 2 months since he got this pay and hasn't sent it, but he DID try to figure out what to do with it 3X, we have the paperwork, and he DID send it today (certified mail, return receipt, with a note in the memo section of the check). But with everything else going on, he was just afraid to have to pay it twice or it be counted as a gift. He had the money sitting in an account so it's not like we spent it or he didn't have it. The last lawyer he talked to said he would be fine since he has a papertrail, but of course I'm freaked out. WHY is this BM such a tool?!?