I can totally see this being my life if we lived closer because stupid shit like this happens all the time when we have my ss10. He acts like he is 3 and expects everyone to wait on him hand and foot. He absolutely ruins everything when he is around because he sulks up if all the attention is not on him. If anyone says anything about my bd1 then he sulks up. What I have found to be helpful is not let him around during the important things such as her birthday party,Christmas etc....I know it seems so mean and selfish but I just know things would be horrible if he was here during those times. Of course it does help that he lives 4 hours away from us! But we will be getting this brat tomorrow for the weekend/holiday break....oh great....another new year with this kid! Yah! Last year I got out of if because we just had our new baby girl in the house and my husband wasn't about to leave us to go pick him up thankfully! This year I talked my husband out of having him for Christmas because he has 1/2 siblings,step siblings and ex step siblings that he celebrates Christmas with so I got out of Christmas again this year! I hope there will be another few Christmas' ss free....wouldn't be so bad if every time it was a huge ordeal....also my ss bm used to call my dh all the time....I put an end to it after I was pregnant because I just couldn't handle it anymore....the last time she pulled that crap was when I was 6 months pregnant and she called his cell at 7 in the morning to talk to him about ss getting new clothes then she called againt to tell my dh that my ss used a bow and arrow at camp then she called again that evening and told us that he ate a grasshopper at camp!!!I was beyond mad so I called her up and let her have it.....that was pretty much the end of all of that crap! She now has to call my cell to talk to us.....make things much easier because now she won't tell me how her and my dh were talking the other day about yada yada yada! Helped our relationship a lot....and she got remarried so that may have helped some...poor guy.

We just had our third Christmas in a row ruined due to BM's bullshit and inability to get anywhere on time. I feel your pain. Keep working on getting your DH to stand up to her and set boundaries. It took me a long time to get DH to do it. He was still guilty for the divorce and BM is quite manipulative and intimidating and she terrorized him for the 9 years they were married. He was finally able to work past the guilt and stand up to her (with my help). But we still have the scheduling drama, so we are going to try and alter the divorce agreement/custody schedule to minimize this as much as possible. We also have the forgetting issues (although since sd is only 8 it is usually BM forgetting to pack soemthing we asked for). We have tried our best to get around all of these situations (borrowing stuff from friends, having spare clothes here in case, etc). Good luck.

i'm seeing your point. cool thing is, your baby can have cake tomorrow and never know the difference. be sure not to be dealing with the fuckers on your babies birthday next year because you know the shit they'll pull!!!

just quit trying to go out of your way for the skids, they are stupid and they take and they have a mother to get all their b.s. from!!!

damn step kids and bm. i hope they all get transported to a corn field FAR THE HELL AWAY FROM ME!

i think skids "forget" shit they have to have on purpose. like they enjoy the extra "attention" and "effort" geared just for them. my ss has medicine he takes every frickin' night, but still has to be reminded to bring it with him here and take it home the next morning. i can't tell you how many times dh had to make an extra 1.5 hr round trip b/c the dumb fuck forgot his medicine, but said he had it when he got into the truck. now he has to show the medicine.