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Help! The sight of my 4 yo SD makes me so stressed out!

Trixie68's picture

I can't believe I feel this way-I feel so guilty and ashamed. My 4 year old SD is so sweet and beautiful and has done nothing wrong but she gets on my nerves the second she wakes up in the morning. I don't know why-I don't understand it. I love my DH so very much and my 3 year old SS but I can't seem to feel any love towards her. I am also 7 months pregnant with my 1st child so hormones may be to blame a little for the way I feel. Is it jealousy? Am I in competition with her? I know that she is the apple of my DH's eye-he used to spoil her but now not so much.
When it comes to discipline, I am so much harder on her than her brother. I feel like such a b**tch!
Is there anyone out there that has experienced this? I hate I feel this way.

Trixie68's picture

Hey-Thanks for replying-She knows how to wrap her father around her finger-I point it out to him and he is open to hear my side of things but he lets her get away with things a lot more than my SS who is 3. She just rubs me wrong and I don't know how to deal with it. I guess I have issues stemming from my Dad and how he abandoned me and my mom when he cheated on her (I was 16 when that happened) and I guess I feel like I am always in competition with "another woman" when it comes to the important men in my life. I just hate it and I hate feeling this way. It sounds so absurd that I am jealous of a friggin 4 year old little girl.

Trixie68's picture

True true on what you say-There is quite an age difference b/t me and my DH (17 years and he's the younger one) so that may have something to do with it. But on the other hand, I don't have children (yet) and he does so he has a little bit more experience, I guess. He also feels guilty b/c their BM abandoned them and just up joined the Army so we have them all the time and I guess he feels like he needs to make up for what she did to them. She sees them about once a year and rarely calls. It sucks!!!!