Stressed
So my step daughter comes back next week after a 2 month hiatus. It was the most pleasant two months of my life. Her mother has been going out and spending quality time with her outside our home instead of just having her here treating the place like a hotel and being rude and manipulative. Now she will be here for a week since her biodad is going out of town for a week. I am terrified that she'll remember that she can easily manipulate her mother, treat me like crap and get away with it, and basically be a princess here without reprecussions, and that will make her want to come back again on a more regular basis. Her mother says that L has changed in the past 2 months, and her father says that she is no longer pushing all the boundaries as much.....well, OF COURSE! He lets her stay up on the computer til all hours, bring her boyfriend to the house whenever she wants, never lift a finger, I mean, the girl is 18 and has never even looked for a job, offers no help in the house and has no responsibilities. I don't want to be her maid, but when I try to talk to her mother it's excuse after excuse, defend, defend. So.....my question to the group is, "What would be the best course of action to get through the next week?" I have considered taking up drinking but it gives me heartburn. Sniffing glue is out of the question. I could only get free reservations for 2 nights at a hotel down the shore so that leaves 6 nights of me and princess girl and her irresponsible mother....
Hi Simian. Most of us are in
Hi Simian. Most of us are in straight relationships on this site, but I expect that much of what we go through with skids applies in some ways to you.
I would disengage. You can read an article on the following website which may help: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/827161/the_disengaging_stepmom_...
Ultimately it is your SO who must parent this child and not you.
Hope this helps.
Good luck.
MG
Whether straight or gay I
Whether straight or gay I would not allow myself to be manipualted by my partners kids. I would lose any respect for my partner overnight if we were so diametrically divied over how we raise kids.
I think you need to talk to your partner BEFORE Princess Entitlement shows up. Remind her you SHARE your lives however if she does not reign her daughter in you are considering alternatives.
Why spend the next few yrs in misery with this brat? I woulldn't.
Or move out, stay with another friend for the week reminding your partner why you are doing this. And the next time she can stay elsewhere in return.