I am really at a loss with my stepson. I have been with him since he was 6 years old and married to his dad for the past 4 years. We have had a great relationship up to this point.

In the last year he has told us that he is a homosexual. I has my suspicions and was expecting this at any time. His father is really struggling with this and his mother has been ok with it. I have always been my stepson's active parent. Involved in school, extra curriculars and day to day life. That is just the kind of mom I am. I love them as I love my own biological child. He is with us on a week on week off basis due to his mother's live in boyfriends and crazy situation at her house. He has admitted that he only stays with her so he doesn't have a curfew and can have his boyfriend over with no supervision.

He is a freshman in high school this year and has decided to join several activities that require extra transportation and financial contribution. I am the primary person that transports him to all events because of my work schedule and his mother's lack of interest in anyone but herself. My husband does do some transporting but his work does not allow him to do much. While I am happy that he is interested in these activities I believe that he is only doing them to spend more time with his boyfriend whom I am expected to transport to all these activities as well. I expressed to him that I am not pleased with all the extra work and financial support that comes with this and that I believe that he is only doing this to be with the boyfriend. This made him very very angry. We got into an argument recently about it and his dad said that he agreed with me. He was very disrespectful (this has been happening more and more lately but I understand that he is 15 and insane so I deal with it on a case by case basis.) I had had enough though and told him that if that was his attitude I would not be transporting him to anymore events and he could get rides from his mom and dad.

He informed his dad last night that he was not going to come to our house anymore because we don't trust him and if I wasn't going to give him rides anymore there was no reason for him to be here. My husband tried to discuss it with him but he wouldn't talk anymore. I was initially relieved, then devastated and now I am angry. He has been increasingly selfabsorbed but I attributed this to his age and the boyfriend.

Now I am not sure what to do. I feel like my husband has lost his son because of me. There are things that need to be done soon like paying for band camp (his mother makes no financial contributions to his extracurriculars). Of course I think he should figure it out himself how to pay for it or have his mom get more child support from us and we will not contribute to him beyond that. I have a 12 year old son that lives here full time and is going to be heart broken by his decision. And I love this child so much - so much that I have to parent him the best way I know how. Which at this time means not giving in to his power play.

Any insight would be helpful. Thanks.