ok so last night I made DH call BM and tell her whats expected from her since SS12 was diagnosed and on meds for ADHD inattentive type, of course she was pissy when she was told no more just letting him do what he wants when he wants, she got angry when DH said he does not want her boyfriends kids watching them (his kids are little delinquents), she said she does not know where this came from she does not see anything wrong with him, so thats when it was pointed out that she probably wouldnt see much when she gets them 4 days a month, sometimes, and then leaves them with a sitter most of that time.
She was being as reasonable as she is mentally capable of.. so DH told her that he is going to a neuropsyc to see about aspergers (Dr is certain he has it), thats when she lost control, she does not believe it and what kind of Dr. did we take him to, it had to have been us telling the dr things that made her think this and if DH keeps calling SS stupid she will get custody.. blah blah blah.. she is a flippen anti social narsassitc moron!
So then DH talks about some issues he has, like letting SS sleep on a mattress in the same room as her boyfriends 15 yr old and his girl friend (the same 15 yr old who showed SS porn and how to get on porn websites), of course BM says that never happened and she will talk to him about it, yeah, just like she said they both lied when they said she spent the gift cards she got them. She said she would talk to them about visitation and who they want to come and get them, and drop them off..and some other things that THE PARENTS should be taking care of.. she almost lost it when DH told her that they WILL be left out of the adult politics of all this shit.. she said they should have a say.. we think they are kids and need to be kids, and DH ever so politely added that includes anything that anyone has to say about us or our kids, including saying that our son is not my husbands (which isnt true) anyways..
that all out of the way skids are going to their moms.. I do get a small break.. I am so happy I could pee myself..it will probably be short lived.. she is going to screw up, she always does..but for now.. I am getting a break!!