I'll let you know in 4 months! lol
I know things are going to get more complicated but I think they will get better at the same time. I will not be sooo alone when it comes to "family" things. No matter what we're doing there always seems to be a "them and me" attitude. lol Even when me and Sd are playing with make up.... I don't get it.

I'm looking foreward to having a better understanding of the bond between a parent and their child. I'm also looking foreward to being able to parent a child with only one other vioce I need to consider. I can't wait to meet the little one.

I'm not looking foreward to Dh trying to balance his time. He's soooo unorganized as it is I highly doubt he'll be able to figure it out on his own. I'm dreading holidays where he has to be gone for what ever amount of time either because he has to drive to pick up Sd or because its not our turn and he feels the need to go visit her.

It is a big decision to make. I wish you the best of luck with it!

umm.. I think it changed the dynamics a bit. Does it create a happy family?? No.. a baby doesnt make things magically better. Did having the baby make DH and I happy? absolutely.. did it solve problems w/the skids? mine is a yes/no answer. My sd used to hate me and not acknowledge me.. and SS used to love hanging w/me and stuff.. they have now reversed roles now that the baby came. COMPLETELY!

I find that for us, the BM was a bit nicer toward me. She no longer tells me that I am a no one and a nobody, but, I am sure she will revert back to her old self sooner or later. I did find that she had LESS control over dh and I. He started putting his foot down more often, and not letting her have complete control over him and his actions. He is thinking about our child as well as the other two.

I think you have to hope for the best, but expect the worst. I can tell you, I can not imagine my life w/o my child.

create your happiness and peace first...then if you decide to bring a baby into it, you are prepared to roll with the punches change often brings.

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"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

"Never let the hand you hold, hold you down." ~Aut

Every situation is different. I have two BKs with DH and he has one child from his previous marriage. She has many problems psychologically due to things she has gone through since DH and BM split up and we are now trying to help her with that. I had my BS when SD was 10. It was bad. She came home from her summer visitation with BM to a new baby and acted out because she was afraid that DH and I would love our BS more than her. When BD came along 22 months later, SD was there for the birth and seemed much more adjusted to the situation. She has obvious jealousy issues with my relationship with my BKs, I'm sure due to the fact that she does not have anything like that with her BM. She is a great sister, and has the potential to be a wonderful daughter. She has a lot of issues with deceit and anger. We are trying to help her deal with those issues. Not every blended family has these issues. It really depends on how well the parenting team works together and how SKs are able to adapt to the new addition. I'm not sure I have really given any advice here, but I felt I should share my story. It has been a struggle, still is a struggle, but I would not change a thing. My BKs are the world to me. I love me SD with all my heart and want the best for her. I tell her that every chance I get. I think the key is reassurance and involvement. Hope this helps.