When is Enough, Enough!!!?
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I have an 11 SD! I have known her since she was 4! In the begining I gave her & my hubby everything I had! For many many years my SD & BM came first in my DH eyes! I was just the SM that didn't understand divorce & Step children! So basically the SD & BM called all the shots & he jumped everytime the said so! Now we have 2 children together & things have changed- I stand up for myself & my girs! I will not let them grow up with the pain & disfuncton that I have delt with! I just don't know how do you know whe to cal it quits?
Yes I agree, that even if it
Yes I agree, that even if it seems bad now, it would be worse for your own kids if they also had to deal with steps, unless you are absolutely miserable.
But no one really knows but you, what is too much. If it is too much, get out and don't feel bad.
Being a mom even is a thankless job for a long time, and being both bio and step is even tougher, but it is a VERY important role honey.
Maybe you can get out of the house and get some 'you' time to pull you through, on a regular basis. Make DH do his part too! HUGS
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“Learn by practice.” - Martha Graham
Thank you Ladies !! I am not
Thank you Ladies !! I am not a quitter & will not stop trying to make it work for my daughters sake, & for my own! I love my husband & when my SD is not around we have an awesome time together as a family & as a couple! Unfortunaly since we have SD 4 days a week it's kind of a roller coaster- she comes & everything goes down!
Yes things are def better - my husband stands up to the BM much more than he did in the past! I just feel like things are so far off in the ditch from the past that he's small efforts are not really being felt yet.
My issue alot of times is that I do not want my girls to live & see the disfunction - I guess I want to shelter them from that! I have felt so much pain from this situation I am so worried that they will effected by it as well.
My SD confirmation is coming up & I have already told my husband that I will not bring my girls to the church because everytime there is a situation that we need to all be together the BM opens her fat mouth with rude nasty comments & I will not subject my kids to her!
It is nice to know that I am not the only one who feel these things (about their SD & BM) because for a long time I felt so lonely thinking I am the only one!!
You are not the only one
You are not the only one honey. Would she really say something nasty, in a CHURCH?!! Be sure to make way for the lightning bolt!
That is so childish of her. It is a shame that she doesn't know how to act in public. I wish we could think of a way for you to feel ok going to the confirmation!! I remember mine and it was a big deal for me!! HUGS honey
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“Learn by practice.” - Martha Graham