My husband and I both received a message on myspace from an individual that neither of us knows. The first message asked if my husband was SD's dad, said that they were pretty sure he was (they named SD), then stated that the individual thought our BM was in jail or was going to be heading to jail soon. They provided us with BM's mother-in-laws name, stating that if we wanted to know more we should ask her. I sent a message to the MIL and Hubby sent a reply back to the individual that had originally messaged us, asking if she was ok and if she needed any help. The reply to that message was that SD would be better off if BM was in jail. That BM had previously been living with a pedofile(sp?) and that SD had probably been molested. It also said that SD's mom was abusing her.

Now, ordinarily I wouldn't jump to conclusions based off of a random message we received from someone we don't even know, BUT when we visited SD in December she had two accidents in two days where she pooped herself. This is very unusual, as she has been potty trained since she was about 2.5 years old and is now 5. When I related these instances to my friend, she told me that SD having this type of "accident" is often a sign that she has been sexually abused (ie: sliding backwards developmentally). SD was also very aware of her body. She was uncomfortable changing in front of anyone, insisted on having help from her mom even though she is 5 and should be able to dress herself (it was just putting pants and a t-shirt on instead of a dress. When she was alone with us, she did these things independently). BM told me before that SD has a hard time "bonding" with males.

We've messaged the MIL, asking for more information, but have not heard back. We haven't contacted BM yet, because we want to have all of our ducks in a row, so to speak. What can we do to best prepare ourselves? This is horrible!!! I swear if that miserable wretch let that poor child get hurt because of her own selfishness and stupidity she will NEVER see her child again.

We are 1200 miles away and it feels like there is nothing that we can do for her. Nothing that we can do to protect her.