Total opposite of BM
Okay here's a question. How many of you are the extreme opposite of the X? What makes you so different?
The X can fry chicken is crisco/ I prepare stir-fry in extra virgin olive oil.
The X is a grade-A maid/ I have been more of a professional my entire life and not a housekeeper.
The X goes to the local Y/ I go for walks and prefer live music.
The X wears no make-up/ I do wear some make-up.
The X is a goody-goody / I am not always a goody-goody (when not pregnant) and love to go out and have a great time. 
The X is rather dumpy, plain, and fat/ I take care of myself.
The X is needy/ I am not.
The X lacks basic manners/ I went to private school.
The X wanted a "threesome" w/ another woman, mind you.*ewww*/ I have zero need to look around.
(That explains why the X MAY not have another MAN in her life yet...? Maybe she is a lesbian...hmmm?)
I wonder what makes our DH, BF, SO,whatever go from one extreme to the other? Sometimes I feel like I am not a good enough housekeeper or whatever but I know that I am way above in regards to any other matters.)
How about all of you?
BM is very different from DH
BM is very different from DH and I in a lot of ways. She's not someone DH would have ever been with long-term. They were only together about a month.
I feel bad for her sometimes but, at this point in her life, she's where she is because of choices. Her family is a mess too though so I'm sure she's had less opportunity in her life.
BM - dropped out of HS
DH has his undergrad and I have my Masters
BM - only employed for a few months her entire life - mostly lived/lives off welfare
DH and I both working professionals and own our home
DH and I are also both artists, love to read, interested in world religions. None of this is her. We have money but live simply in a lot of ways: no television, mostly vegetarian/whole foods, mostly walk to work. We laugh sometimes b/c if DBS gets expensive toys/electronics they will be coming from her...because those are things she values, even if she can less afford it.
It's very odd to think of sometimes. DH and I both have many friends who grew up in India (which is something else we have in common from even before we met...these are not common friends). We've remarked before how much more similar these friends are to us- their daily lives, basic choices in life, belief systems (non-religious) - than BM. She is from this entirely different culture...even though we're from the same country, state, area of the state, etc.
The ex and I are complete
The ex and I are complete opposites. DH and BM were young when they met, I think DH and BM had fun, but BM wasn't wife material.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
BM & I are opposites: BM has
BM & I are opposites:
BM has no drive. She was in the military and could've gone to college for free. She is fine with HS education. She has no drive to move up in her company and is fine staying in the same position.
I have my BA in Business and will probably go back at some point. I constantly am looking to improve my job or salary or move to better jobs.
BM has no respect for herself or her things. She looks like a slob and ONLY cleans the house when people are coming over. The kids cant even eat on the table b/c its piled high with junk.
I take high pride in myself and our home. I clean once a week and straighten up everyday. My table has a centerpeice on it and nothing else gets placed on it except for food.
BM is fat, wears no makeup, wears frumpy clothes, hair always in a pony tail.
I get my hair done every 8 wks, wear makeup, tan, always have nice clothes.
BM does drugs and smokes.
I've never even tried either.
BM was a control freak with DH. If he didnt walk in the door at 5:25 everyday, she'd call him at 5:26 and ask him where he was and if he didnt anwser, she'd call till he did.
I understand there is traffic and I DON'T need to keep tabs on him, its a little something called trust.
BM & DH have a really weird situation of how they got together and they were doomed from the beginning. I told him, I never got why he didnt protect himself better. But he was young and stupid and well shit happens!