Last night, BF and I were having a wonderful time at karaoke with a friend. We decided to move on to another local bar. I rode with my friend and he followed to meet us there. When my friend and I walked in, I spotted BM sitting at the bar. (We have run into her there before, so it really wasn’t that big a deal….at least I thought.) A few minutes later, BF calls and asks “is BM in there?” Well, maybe I’m wrong for this, but I played dumb and said “I really haven’t paid attention.” He says, “Hmmm, I could swear that’s her car.” I then said, “Oh, well there is her boyfriend (the man she cheated on him with for two years), so she might be. Is that a problem?” He said “no” but I could tell there was some hesitation. I said “well, you can go on home if you want and I’ll have friend bring me home.” He said “no, I’ll come in.” Now you might be thinking that his hesitation was because they don’t get along or something and he didn’t want a confrontation. But that’s not the case….they are very amicable. To be honest, I’ve had to explain to him multiple times that although I want them to be amicable for the kids sake, I am not comfortable with her calling for anything outside of issues with the kids. She wants to be “friends” with him, but I explained that as we try to build our life together (we started living together this winter) that she needs to back off and give us space to do such. She stopped calling as much and as far as I can tell, they both have limited interactions pretty much to dealing with things regarding their kids. However, I have noticed that anytime we are all around each other (soccer, baseball, etc), he distances himself equally between us. I’ve even inched closer to him sometimes and he will literally take a step away. Hell, they’ve even walked side by side down the sidewalk with me in front and I literally had to stop in my tracks in front of him to make him realize he was walking beside HER instead of me. Which brings me back to last night. He walks in and I hand him his beer. There is a third seat for him, but he instead stands about two feet away from me, directly behind BM. (My friend and I were actually sitting right behind her because there were no other seats.) By this time we have been spotted by BM’s boyfriend and he comes over and speaks. BM then turns around from the bar and speaks as well. My BF stands there and speaks to her (which is fine….again, we are all civil and amicable.) Because of seating arrangement, my back is to him and I’m conversing with our friend. After what I deemed to be an appropriate amount of time, I am expecting him to acknowledge that he is with me and to sit in the 3rd seat saved for him and join our conversation. Instead, he continues standing away from me and continues speaking with her. (At the bar we had just left he was very much into PDA, sitting close to me, etc. as he usually is….except apparently when SHE is around.) So I turn around, slide the chair out and give him that “ok, you’ve talked to her long enough now sit your ass down and act like you are with me” look. He actually looked at me and said, “that’s ok, I’ll stand” and he never moved and continued conversing with her. I turned back around and was LIVID. My girlfriend couldn’t believe it either. I asked her if it was too much to expect for my BF to act like he is with me when his ex is sitting right behind us? Again, I should remind you that he is VERY much into PDA, etc when we are out. I went to the bathroom and when I came back he could tell I was very upset. He THEN finally moved over and started touching me, but I pulled away. So he says “I’m going home” and asked my friend if she would bring me home. And he left. When she is around and he distances himself from me, it makes me feel like he owes her some type of respect that he doesn’t want to display any affection for the woman he is now with and claims to love with all his heart. Yet he can converse with her, her boyfriend (that she cheated on him with), and treat me as if I’m the girl next door. Last night, ESPECIALLY, made me feel as if he was with TWO women and he couldn’t show either one any favoritism. I’m very hurt.