how many of your husbands think before they act?
We had our first big experience yesterday with BM and all of her attempts to get hubby on her free time when I am not there to play family with their son. SS has swimming lessons and although we cant stand to be in the same room as BM we went to watch SS because he is 4 and getting to that age when he is asking us why we arent there and if we can come. Any other time BM has never wanted us to be in SS life but considering she found out that I work most Friday nights and that SS just so happens to go into swimming only on friday nights she made it a great little guilt trip getaway for FH to go and see SS swim.
I just so happened to have this previous friday night off and FH was feeling guilty about not going to swimming so he and I an our 10 month old son went to the swimming pool to go and watch. BM was putting on great face and you could tell that she wasnt expecting me to show up there with our son to watch SS. But I give my Hubby full credit on this one because he really thought this one out:
First he made sure that he sat one chair down so I sat in the middle (he tells me later that he thinks that I would have given him crap if he went to sit beside her...I probally would have had some sort of problem with it..lol)
Second and heres the kicker after swimming was over (and heres where he gets bonus points) BM said that we couldn't leave until SS got to show his dad what he looked like with goggles on so BM comes back from the dressing room decided to throw on her bathing suit, this tiny little bikini..very appropriate for a child/family swim im sure, and parades around to show FH what SS can do all the while jumping around and showing herself off....Hubby doesn't look at her once...GOOD MAN!!
He told me later that he thought about what was going to happen before it did and I thanked him for everyting and told him that he was a good man for considering my feelings instead of making me jump out of my skin...I love him for that.
Have any of you ladies had an experience like this before, where you know he could pull one wrong move and you'd tear his head off but instead he comes through with shining colors?
stupid immature men
I had my fill of them and at age 45 swore off men and thought it better for me to remain single.
Turned out, I liked being able to just date and dump off the guy when he started to show those undesirable traits and I figured the dream of a EMOTIONALLY MATURE man was a myth.
I had only met about 4 emotionally mature men in my life and know they are rare and figured at my age ( mid 40's) there were not going to be any to be found, so I just went on about my life....
dating and having to throw back guy after guy as I wasn't going to settle. I would instead remain single.
Then one day I met a guy who was emotionally mature. It was like I was dreaming. I tested him over and over and he was in fact what he seemed.
How could a man like this be available ????????????
Turns out he was married to a bytch for 20 years. She even came to his place unannounced to check me out and stir up trouble and drama and I got to see it first-hand. How could he remain married to such a woman? He said he tried to get along because of the kids.
I ended up marrying him because of his inner strengths, his emotional maturity. I would have dated him because he's fun and attractive but thats not enough to marry. I married only due to his inner qualities.
Moral of story: guess if your picky and patient, you will eventually run into a man who not only thinks before he speaks but is a leader, a good man who is a help and pleasure to be around, one who is actually a good partner, a loving man who is not a stupid wimp on the inside.
I am blessed as I have a husband in the true sense of the word and the very best of men. It took many years to find him and I gave up... then one day he just appeared.
Guess it works like that and it also takes a woman who knows a good man who is a partner to have a man like this, not just finding one but being able to attract him and keep him.
Guess the exception is the women who trick men ( can be opposite with genders) into staying married due to the kids they have, but those marriages end with a good man ( sooner or later). Many people play games and put up fronts as to who they really are to con and trick good people into marriage. This was the case with my husband who did not know he was marrying such a bad woman in his ex.
Be careful who you marry.
Not quite as interesting, but
JamaicanMeCrazy
DISNEY LIED...THERE IS NO 'HAPPILY EVER AFTER'
when we attended SD21's wedding last summer evidently the bride failed to mention to the photographer (and the minister) that her parents were divorced and DH was remarried. The photographer told DH to come stand behind BM and put his arms around her as they lovingly gazed at SD21....DH told the photographer that he didn't want to do that and before he could tell him why, BM's crazy beotch sister literally yelled from the back of the church that DH was no longer married to BM, pointed at me and yelled, "he's married to her!" It was an awkward yet funny moment! What made it even better was BM was dressed like crap, old raggy brown polyester (yes, polyester like grandma wears) pants, a butt ugly blouse and ugly black loafers, no makeup and long, stringy, dingey hair....ugggghhhh....couldn't she at least have cleaned up for her daughter's wedding???
My H is sooooo considerate...
when it comes to BM H is very nice to her and trys hard to work together with her for SS. Now BM not the best looking but not the funkiest either and I have seen her check H out but she has never pranced in provocative clothes in front of him since they split. We have heard that BM has commented to her family and her own boyfriend that H was looking good and that her BF got so pissed he would not eat for like 2 days. Now my H has never made a comment about another woman in my presence. When out in public he hugs me kisses me and tries to talk trash to me. He is very affectionate with me and at times I have to tell him slow down their hound(do not get me wrong he is not like get a room or nothing but he shows I am his woman). H does an EXCELLENT job at making me feel like the most beautiful person in the world to him. Now I think my H is super hot and I have seen other women checking him out but as stated above when in public everyone knows by his actions with me that he is with me.