No respect
Yesterday H finally sat sd down and talked to her about her plans for the future. She swears she can go to any university she wants, he tells her not with your grades. Keep in mind I'm sitting there biting my tongue trying not to say anything. She refuses to take the SAT's says she doesn't need to. He had printed out tuition costs and all the other fees needed for school and shows it to her. She refuses to believe that she can't get into these schools. I was proud of him for hanging in and trying to talk sense to her even when she wouldn't listen. Then she says she will go to a trade school but again the same problem no grades/no financial help. H then suggests that she should think about enlisting and getting the GI Bill. She totally goes off screaming about the military and how evil it is. He sat there not saying a word and I got up and let the room. I was so furious that I wanted to pimp slap the little bitch. He followed me and asked what was wrong and I basically told him I was ready to wring her neck if she didn't shut the F@@# up. He was Army and so are my sons and DIL. If it weren't for the military she wouldn't be here. I can put up with a lot but I won't have my sons and husband disrespected by that snot nosed little brat. When we walked back into the living room she was still ranting and raving. H tried to talk to her and make her understand that he doesn't have the money to pay for all collage expenses which he would have to do since she has a terrible gpa. Her next bright idea was I should pay for it. Not in this lifetime!!!!!!!!!!! I wouldn't give her bus fare to get across town. My sons joined the Army for the GI Bill, well that was one of the reasons, so they could save the money their grandfather put away for their education. I'm right at the point of throwing sd out on her pointy little head. }:)
But I am so glad
your DH is even trying to talk sense to her!! I think it is a great idea and will turn her attitude around completely. DH joined the navy when he graduated high school, saw the world and it helped pay for his education too when he returned.
He was posted on a peace keeping force near Israel where you know there is constant fighting, among other places and he said they all wanted to be there and were proud to be there, wanted to show what they could do, and he thinks it changed his life for the better. Plus your fellow members will not allow diva behavior I am sure!
I have to say it never occurred to me as a female to join but if I didn't have good grades I am sure it would have come up. When does she graduate?
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin
H placed her in an
H placed her in an alternative school so that she can graduate in May. I believe she knows that she can't hack basic since they most definitely won't tolerate her behavior. My DIL has been in the Army for 5 yrs and she has managed to get several collage courses. My youngest has been taking collage courses on line for a couple of years now. He's trying to get all the basic credits out of the way, like english and math so he can concentrate on other things. H tried to explain all this to her, in the military you can get a lot of the basics for no cost and they do transfer over. Most bases have a great learning center that offers collage courses and collage prep courses. Right now sd has gone home with my MIL. H was so mad at her for the backtalking and her lieing that he told her to leave. My MIL was here this morning when that part of the argument was going on and she told sd that she could come home with her. But if she acts like that at her house she will put her out the door. I know it hurts him to have her act this way but he needs to acknowledge that he has been allowing it to go on for years. Sometimes it's better to rip the bandage off fast than pick at it.
I don't know how you've put up with it all these years
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
but am so glad your H is finally seeing the light.
Your SD is not living in the real world-she's got some fantasy land that she's living in, where it's all about her. Guess what? H.S. is so over for her in a few months. Look out, life!
Same applies to my SD17. I can't wait for that girl to be out of H.S., and have to face the real world. Time to grow up, babies.
She will get the shock of
She will get the shock of her life when she finishes HS and sees how life out there on your own isn't that easy.
Well done to your DH for standing up and trying to talk sense to her.
I can't even imagine
JamaicanMeCrazy
DISNEY LIED...THERE IS NO 'HAPPILY EVER AFTER'
how my SD17 is going to deal with life after h.s. - she's a junior this year(DH held her back a grade) so we've got one more year to put up with her crap. The day she graduates or the day she drops out,which ever comes first, she's on her own. According to her sister, she's not going to make it to college (this is the kid whose grade cards we haven't seen in almost a year). Because I am employed at the state university,she would be able to attend for 1/2 price tuition if she would only apply herself and get her grades up while she's still in h.s. Too bad the only subject she's interested in is herself - and how slutty she can dress and act. DH has also tried to talk to her about going in to the military - you'd have thought he asked her to cut off her right arm! If she wants money for college, it's either going to have to be through the military or she's going to have to apply for grants and/or work her butt off through school. According to her, the world "owes" her a living - that girl's in for a very rude awakening in about a year or less, depending on the choices she makes right now.
My sd hasn't grown up yet,
My sd hasn't grown up yet, but how can she as long as Daddy bails her out everytime.
I kept hoping that he will wake up one day. Then I think maybe after I've had enough and then he misses me, but then nope he isn't going to change. I feel a tequila night real soon and let all my feelings out.
Good Luck Ladies.
You know, it sounds like she
You know, it sounds like she could really use the military... wow.
Sd is 19 and can throw
Sd is 19 and can throw temper tantrums like a 3 yr old. If she doesn't get what she wants she will first throw a fit then turn on the water works. If one of my kids had ever acted like that I would have burned his butt. Mine are grown and they know not to ever take a tone with me cause I'll still take them down a peg or two. She wouldn't last 1 day at basic and she knows it.