I don't get it. If they boys are together when they are with you, why do they need to be together when they are with her? Do I understand correctly that she wants you to send your biological child to her, the ex/BM? Sounds crazy to me. I wouldn't do it. It just seems like common sense to me to keep my bio kids totally apart from my skids' mother.

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I totally agree with Anne! My SKs grandparents are always "offering" to babysit my bio and I will never let that happen, I have seen how well their parenting skills turned out ( SKs BM ) and ummm... no thanks!!

to send bs over to ex's house, unless it's a special occasion, like it's a bday party sleep over. But vacations, and normal activities, your son doesn't need to go over to ex's house. To me it sounds like she wants your son there to entertain her son. Her son needs to develop relationships with kids in her neighborhood, and her family during HER time.

I personally wouldn't do it. If you feel it's no big, then proceed with your own feelings. This is just how I see things.

Bests,
Candice

I am going to sound crazy but my kids dad had a girlfriend who we developed a bond, and our kids became very close. They are not together anymore, but we still hang out, my kids have gone to stay there, and her kids have come to my house and stayed. I think it depends on the situation. In fact, she (her name is Angie) calls my kids and sends them cards and stuff still. So I would have to say it depends on the situation and if there is tension. Just make sure she does not have something up her sleeve. Maybe start with a few play dates. Not sleepover, but let your son go play for a few hours here and there. My step son cries for Daman (my bs) when he is home and not with us.
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I responded to this same kind of post about BM babysitting the Bio's. And I agree that it totally depends on the situation and the relationship you have. My BS's little half brother (his dads other kids) are younger than BS and they just adore him. They plead with me if they can sleep over their brothers (my place) and then they plead with their mum. It hasn't happened yet as we never got around to it, but I would be ok with the half brother staying here with my BS, he is their hero it has nothing to do with us mothers. But if they were close in age and adored hanging out, as long as I knew the SM had no ill feelings toward my kids, I'd be fine with it.

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For a while, my sd and bd were pretty close and they wanted to be together all of the time. Luckily the bm did not mind and my bd has gone over there many times. My bd actually adores the bm and she treats my bd very well. So, I really think that it just depends on the situation. If the kids are close and the adults have no issue with it, why not?

Georgie