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DH going to talk to SS today.....

tankh21's picture

Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 7:01am

DH has the skids this weekend since it's the first weekend of the month. DH is supposed to talk to YSS about sleeping in his room but, TBH I really don't think that he is going to take DH seriously so I think I am going to listen to you guys and make it uncomfortable for him to even want to sleep in the living room. DH will stick to his guns for a little awhile then let the skids get back into their old habits. I know that it takes time and being a blended family can be very challenging. I want the skids to be comfortable in our home because it is their home as well. If something in YSS's room is really making him uncomfortable then DH needed to get to the bottom of it so we can figure out what we need to do to make him comfortable.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 7:16am

no no no what the hell can make you uncomfortable in your bedroom, the wall color the light bullshit it's just a manipulation way to get his way to sleep in the living room.... he can suck it up and sleep in his room, it's called parenting

When skids arrive and bed times rolls around, you tell the kids, go to bed now.... and remove everything from the coach, make it clear to SS if he sleeps on the coach there will be consequences, (waking him up at 2 in the morning to make sure he goes to bed, and this DH will do, you kick him out of bed and tell him, go and make sure SS is in his room)

take a stand,

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Submitted by tankh21 on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 9:57am

You think that SS is just trying to manipulate DH into being able to continue to do what he wants.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Fri, 12/01/2017 - 12:03am

and there's your answer lady...

SS is manipulating, you can paint that room any color he desires he's not going to stop cause currently he's in control

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Submitted by ESMOD on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 8:01am

Good that your DH is going to speak with him and set expectations.

I think that the focus on what is wrong with his room needs to be quite brief and direct. I wouldn't let SS derail the conversation on how he doesn't like the color and that it's not fair he didn't get to choose his furniture. I think the question should be more along the line of "is there a reason that you CAN'T sleep in your own bedroom?

Any discussion that involves "well, I want my room to be blue and want to get the new star wars bedding.. mom lets me pick out ...blah blah". That's when dad tells him his own version of "we don't always get what we want and life isn't fair.. buddy you WILL sleep in that room".

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 8:21am

My parent's motto growing up was "life isn't fair then you die." It basically became a "suck It up, you'll do what I say and that's that." Which worked awesomely. So her DH should DEFINITELY have that talk with him, especially about a room... Basic needs are only water, food, and shelter for base survival... He has them all, doesn't matter what color his room is or even if he has a bed tbh, he'll live.

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Submitted by I love dogs on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 8:47am

Wait is this really an issue of the color of his walls?? Also, if the computer is staying at BM's, SS has no incentive to listen to dad.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 10:00am

What time does SS go to bed? Why can't you be lounging on the couch at that time so it's not available. He!!, I'D consider sleeping on the couch to deter SS... but then I'm evil... }:)

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Submitted by ItsGrowingOld on Thu, 11/30/2017 - 10:14am

Kids have way to much power. Your DH needs to parent (teach/discipline). By not parenting, he's creating a little monster IMHO.