I have a friend that I absolute adore. She's young and very pretty. Sweet beyond all measure. Has a cute little precocious 4 year old daughter. She's divorced from an abusive, controlling man that had women on the side. At work, she met a mutual guy friend of mine and started dating him.

While I don't work with my friend group, they all work together. Which is a bummer. I'd love to work with all of them because they are so much fun. Anyways, she starts dating 'this guy and he's truly one of my least favorites of the group. He's crass. Super inappropriate. Foul language. He can be funny but he also has a vicious temper. So much so that it basically cost him his job. Not to mention that he's diagnosed bipolar. He also attempts to say he has PTSD from his military duty. He never saw combat. He was a mechanic on a ship. Seriously never left the boat.

This girl has already been thru so much and she has chosen a worse pick this time around. (Much like myself - for those not you that remember my story). In fact, this guy is worse than nimrod. He is extremely similar to nimrod in that he has sociopathic personality traits. I could give tons of examples of how he's treated her and her daughter. He uses her and takes money from her. Uses her debit card without asking. She doesn't make much either. He's not found a job since losing his. Screaming at her and punching walls or his truck when she attempts to talk things out with him. It goes on and on.

The worst part is that her daughter is scared of him. I told her that was grounds for a break up on its own. I said you don't want this for her and she has no say. Cursing and screaming at a sick four year old is a deal breaker. Not to mention the girl flinches when he even says her name.

I've been there for her to vent and she does see she's getting that short end of things and that he isn't good for them. She has Head knowledge that she deserves better. When your four year old tells your boyfriend that it isn't nice to call mommy dirty words, something needs to end. When other girls send screenshots of Snapchat convos, things need to end.

I get that she feels for him losing his job and he's "stressed" but that is zero excuse for being stolen from, named called, used, and abused. It's more than just stress. It's a character thing. I know because I lived it and I tried everything humanly possible to fix an unfixable situation. Like I said. No one ever called me a "f***ing bitch" for standing up for myself. She hears it all the time.

Here is hoping she gets away from him sooner rather than later and she doesn't marry him like they have discussed. That would break my heart. She's too sweet for that.

It makes me wonder if name calling is off limits or acceptable? I wouldn't have accepted that.