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Submitted by stepparent111 on Mon, 09/11/2017 - 7:27am

My 12yr old step son is making me into a monster. Last week one of the cell phones disappeared. The one we let him use to call his family. He convinces us I lost it. This week another cell phone disappeared along with his IPAD. At this point he cannot convince us that I lost it so he I believe makes up a story that he left the cell phone on the truck and it fell off when driven away. I don't really believe this because he lies and makes up stories all the time. I mean it is bad. I don't even know what to do because he needs a lie detector test if his mouth is opening. Last week I solicited the school to see if he had the phone and they came up with nothing but now 2 more things are missing that are expensive technology. My mom said he is probably taking it to school and selling it. I found about $4.00 in quarters in his book bag which I believe he may have taken out of my laundry money but when dad asked he said he is selling his snacks at school. Who does that?! I don't even believe that I think he took my laundry quarters and was taking them to school to buy snacks. His dad is hurt I mean he doesn't know what to do and I don't have solid proof. His mother sent him to us because he lies and makes up stories and now I believe steals. This kid is 12. What happens at 14, 16, 18 if he acts like this now? Then this weekend we went fishing and I have a favorite lure I use and after we noticed the missing IPAD and cell I made him go and clean out the boat, which he can't do, he cant do any chore without assistance. It drives me nuts. He lost the lure and when I snapped because at that point I was livid. He claims he knows where it is and walks off then comes back saying that he can't find it. Then slips it where I already looked and convinces his dad it was there the whole time and I am nuts and believe me I feel nuts every day with him.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Mon, 09/11/2017 - 7:41am

Next time something goes missing and he's still at the house, call the cops - arrange before hand maybe that they come and ran sack his room and scare the shit out of him.

alternative, start locking up all valuables...

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Submitted by SourGrapes on Mon, 09/11/2017 - 9:11am

Can you use the "find my phone" feature to locate the missing devices? I've used it multiple times when I can't find my phone. It shows you the exact location of the device and you can make it ring so that you can find it. Of course, that only works if they're powered on...

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Mon, 09/11/2017 - 9:28am

Dad needs to search this kid's pockets and back pack each morning before school. Do a 'jail' type search on the brat's bedroom.

Lock up electronics and laundry cash and whatever else he may be tempted to 'lose' or accuse you of losing. Go all out and install video cams if you think it will help (document the culprit) . The kid can come ask permission to use this electronic or that electronic and it can be checked out , so to say, and with supervision.

I'd ask the father to take the kid to counseling to see what a trained professional has to say after listening to and watching this kid in sessions. I have a son-in-law who lies to lie. Not a reason to, just does. The man is 46yrs old. I remember once being told by SIL back when he first surfaced in DD's life as a BF that his father died when SIL was 12 as a result of a drunk driver...then I met his alive and well father a few months later. SIL's father told me his son has lied this way since a small boy.

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Submitted by Cover1W on Mon, 09/11/2017 - 12:18pm

Yes, lock up your valuables.

If kid uses the stuff then it goes back to you at bedtime (YOUR bedtime, not theirs) and gets locked up. Don't share a combination ever, even with your DH, and do not leave key out. Find a good place to put it where they won't think to look (like with your makeup - for SS I mean).

I've had several things in the past several weeks go missing, items I use that were in general household ares. They aren't expensive but it's highly annoying they are gone. I fully suspect SD11 and her TF since this has happened before. DH is FINALLY getting PO'd about it because TF is now on his bad side (gee she's no longer 'just a kid' is she...?) because of her mouthiness. He's about ready to set up cameras because he cannot watch them all the time (and they are sneaky when together). I also told him to search their bags before they leave and BEFORE her parents arrive to pick her up; he checked bags once when TF's dad was there an a huge argument occurred because of course TF cannot do any wrong...and funny that he found some of SD11's clothes stuffed at the bottom of her bag.

You'll have to do as much as you can to protect your things if you DH won't. If DH is buying the stuff for your SS alone, just make sure your $ is not used to replace them.