Mom refuses to listen to my opinions after all I have done for them both and it hurts! She had him young so I get some of it. She is a great Mom. Actually wished she would have been the mother of my child. Dad was very selfish and finally left the picture when he turned 11. We were introduced shortly after and I started helping raise him. Overall I have no regrets, but mom always felt some type of guilt. This made her over compensate and let him grow up with little responsibility. It is showing big time now!
They both have seemed to forget I gave up having children of my own and chose to love them. She told me once that she was a parent at such a early age she didn't want to start over. That meant either I find someone else to have my children or keep raising hers. Obviously I stayed. I gave up my career and went another route so we could get him through college. I paid the house payments so she could pay for his apartment in college. Don't get me wrong for the most part we have a good life, but now he is done with college. Instead of saving for his future he blows his money trying to be the life of the party. When I ask mom to talk to him she gets upset and basically tells me I can just get over it. She is not doing him any favors and I'm not getting over it anytime soon. When is enough enough and I should just cut my loses? Then move on? While I love them both very much I am not being unreasonable! He needs to take that big step and grow up. Mom needs to let him. Why won't she listen to my opinion? Does she even love me or was I a bandaid? Very frustrated?