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Only a WEEK till Summer..I am not ready

briarmommy's picture

Will one week and then SS will be here for the whole summer, everyother weekend is almost to much to deal with and the summer almost kills both me and my marriage every year. My daughter with SO just turned 7 and even she doesn't want SS13 here, she told me I love him but he is mean......how sad is that it breaks my heart that this poor girl wants to love and like her brother so bad but he just acts so awful and brings so much tension that she doesnt' even want him here. I have been doing so good lately, eating better taking my vitamens, making a real effort to be happy and healthy with myself and with SO but here is summer and I am really afraid I will backslide. I stress eat and there will go the 26 lbs I just lost, I am so tired today after having him here for the weekend and the whole summer I just don't know if I can do this anymore, I am worried all the time when he is here. What will he break, will her hurt my daughter by being careless, will he hurt her feelings, can my marriage survive the fighting that happens when he is here? We hardly ever fight .......everytime we do its about him.....I am so tired I honestly don't know if I have a summer with SS13 left in me.........

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tankh21's picture

Sounds like the conversation I had last night about my 11 YSS's behavior. I can hardly stand to be around him for one weekend after this past weekend much less for a month. I feel your pain briarmommy. My DH called me the mean SM from hell yesterday because I expressed my feelings about YSS behavior and that I have had enough. It does take a toll and strain on your marriage that is for sure. I don't know if these men even realize how hard we have it as SM's.

stepmomof1biomomof1's picture

How old is SS? I feel your pain. I dread summer because SD13 is always at our house. I THINK I may have escaped that torture this year. She said she doesn't want to come all summer because we can not take her to her activities. Hopefully nothing will change.

Do you stay at home during the day?

briarmommy's picture

I am home while my husband works and then part time every other weekend and a couple nights a week, so it feels like I am with him all the time.

briarmommy's picture

I am home while my husband works and then part time every other weekend and a couple nights a week, so it feels like I am with him all the time.

SM12's picture

Thank goodness we don't have to deal with the extended time in the summer. DH and BM have 50/50 but they keep the same schedule all year long. No extended visits for summer vacation.