"MY son is amazing"...
How the hell would she know that "her" son is amazing? She literally has not been an active part of his life for almost 2 years. It's been well over a year since he hasn't lived with her. She sees him once every 3 or 4 months. She has talked to him for a total of 3 minutes in the past month. How would she know that he is amazing???
I mean, he IS amazing...
I love how she STILL pretends to be MOTY on social media. I wish someone would call her out on it. I would love to see that shit show.
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Yes, he's amazing and that
Yes, he's amazing and that has nothing to do with HER.
So true. DH really is an
So true. DH really is an AMAZING dad. It's crazy how things turn out sometimes. When SS was a baby, DH wasn't terribly involved. He was resentful of BM because she convinced him to have a baby with her, and then pulled the ol' bait and switch on her personality and completely reverted back to being an irresponsible piece of crap. He couldn't figure out how to separate himself from HER and not from him until he left her and got his life situated. It didn't take long but BM really was the "parent" for a little while. When DH and I first started dating I made it clear that I would not involve myself with a man that wasn't willing to step up and be a dad. Boy did he ever prove himself.
No joke.
No joke.
Of course I think my kids are
Of course I think my kids are amazing and always will. HOWEVER, I don't have to post it on social media for that to be true. It's her act that kills me. You know that.
Thank you for putting my
Thank you for putting my feelings in to words.
That's where it's different.
That's where it's different. BM blames DH and I for her issues. She REFUSES to take responsibility for any of it. She even told DH last time they spoke that just because she did meth it didn't make her a bad mom.... OK? What does it make her? When she starts understanding that ALL of this is HER FAULT... then MAYBE I can TRY to empathize. Maybe.
My skids BM did the same
My skids BM did the same thing. DH called her out on being at the bar every night and leaving the kids (then 4 and 6) home alone with her 12yr old daughter. He called her a bad mother.
She insisted that doesn't mean she's a bad mother. She LOVES them. Because just loving them makes her a good mother. DH tells the kids all the time that love is a verb. It's not just a word you throw around.
Exactly. I have never denied
Exactly. I have never denied that she loves her son. She just loves herself more.
I have often wondered what
I have often wondered what "Love" feels like for my skids BM. She does nothing for them. She should have never had one kid let alone 4. I have and probably always will be more of a mother to those kids. And I put up with all the craziness because I do actually love them. How can you do absolutely nothing for someone and then proclaim love?
I don't know. It certainly
I don't know. It certainly isn't the way I show love, to abandon people that I "love". I personally, can't imagine doing that to someone I love. But... maybe it's different for everyone?
" I KNOW that she KNOWS she
" I KNOW that she KNOWS she is losing out. She is paying a horrendous price for bad life decisions."
Those are called consequences and she deserves them.
I can feel empathy, but not
I can feel empathy, but not in this situation, at least not right now. I used to, and maybe that's why I am so hardened to her. I have helped her in SO many ways. I even cleaned her DISGUSTINGLY filthy house when I really should have called CPS so that she could still bring SS to her house several years ago. I have given her every opportunity to get better, and she only gets worse. I have no empathy left for her at this point.
The thing is, what do you do
The thing is, what do you do because of that empathy?
Does she get a pass on her bad behaviour?
That's the problem I see. They get consequences, karma if you like, but they want someone to feel bad for them. It's not their fault the poor dear.
My exMIL makes everyone feel sorry for her and think her kids and grandkids are so terrible to her. Well, there's a reason they don't anything to do with her.
I agree, but I also don't FB
I agree, but I also don't FB for many reasons. But you already knew that
Tell you what - I'll call
Tell you what - I'll call your BM out if you call out mine
SS14 hasn't had a text or a phone in months and she hasn't seen him for more than 10 minutes since he moved in with us in July but man oh man her FB is allllll about her being the best mother ever.
And she isn't even on drugs. Just a dead beat.
LOL now that's a deal!
LOL now that's a deal!
For the most part she is,
For the most part she is, however, a friend told me she posted this...AND... since she has been texting SS repeatedly this past week (he ignores) and WE KNOW her next question will be "when can I see him"... I wanted to see what she is up to.
Meh, she rarely sends me
Meh, she rarely sends me anything and she knows the entire situation. If she sent them all the time I would tell her to stop, but she doesn't. Maybe once a year.
That's exactly it. We can't
That's exactly it. We can't SEE her, and she won't tell us the truth so it's best if we look.
As a result, I saw that she got in a pretty immature and disgusting FB fight with some girl over Meth Man, which tells me, she is still with Meth Man... which means, SS will not be seeing her any time soon because she is still... ON METH.
Exactly.
Exactly.