Overheard in my living room...
Sometimes my engineer DH is not so good with remembering details, so I will apologize in advance for the gaps BUT DH and I were sitting together after dinner last night.
During dinner, BabyVoice announced that Medusa's dad was going to be going to the Mayo Clinic (for a health issue that has popped up recently) and that he wanted her and KarateKid to go see him before he left. DH knew all about the health issue from Medusa's SM and it's not good...but that's another blog.
DH, BV and KK all worked out when the two of them could go over there and then we were done with dinner. DH and I were hanging out on the couch and the following conversation took place.
Me - if it doesn't end well for MedusaDad, think she'll show up for the funeral?
DH - doubt it, but maybe. We're gonna have to plan for that.
Me - yep, we sure will.
DH - oh, I almost forgot. The other night when we were getting ready to go grab something to eat (I was out with a friend) I was coming downstairs and KK and BV were in the living room. As I was coming downstairs, I heard them talking about something, can't remember what, but BV was telling some kind of story or something like that and it sounded like she was quoting someone. She said, "like who would hate their mom?"
Me - oh boy...and?
DH - they both started laughing and KK said "well we hate our mom" and then BV said "of course we do, why wouldn't we?" and then I walked in so they kind of shut up about it.
Me - hmmm....that's interesting. Think they meant it?
DH - yeah, I think they do. But I wonder what will happen if they see her at a funeral or something?
Me - who knows, but don't be surprised if they want to spend time with her. The lure of that thing you don't have can be pretty strong.
DH - yep. that's why I came back for you.
Thoughts? Comments??
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You're dead on. Hope for the
You're dead on.
Hope for the best, prepare for the worst and just be ready to tride the wave.
Oh yes, it sure is... I will
Oh yes, it sure is...
I will be surprised if she doesn't attend Grandma's funeral. I won't be surprised if she skips her dad's. She hates her SM and hasn't spoken to her half sisters (29 and 31) in something like 8 or 9 years...
Medusa hasn't spoken to her
Medusa hasn't spoken to her dad and SM for 7 years. No love lost there, for sure.
These kids won't be happy to see their mom. Not even a little bit...
hoooboy. that'd be really
hoooboy. that'd be really tough on them i'd think, lots of conflicting emotions for them. it could end up cementing their hatred of her, ooorrr like you said could make them crave the person they can't/don't have. with them being older, and having these kinds of conversations together, i hope it'll be the former.
yeah - it could really go
yeah - it could really go either way. I mean, some of the kids hatred could be a coping mechanism, and we ALL know the pull of the vagina, particularly when it comes to horrible mothers, right??
"the pull of the vagina" -
"the pull of the vagina" - you just made me spew water on my monitor.
it's like a freaking tractor
it's like a freaking tractor beam, I swear
A person who can drop their
A person who can drop their three kids from their lives is certainly very capable of also behaving so coldly regarding a father's funeral. So I don't think she will go. She won't want to face them. It would mean a lot of emotions and introspection and hard work to go to that funeral and I don't think medusa has it in her. Nonetheless you should prepare in case he does pass and she does come
What he has is likely going
What he has is likely going to end in his death. It's not cancer, but something just as deadly.
Interestingly enough, MedusaGrandma is still alive, so the possibility exists that there would be two funerals.
DH is on the fence about whether Medusa would come to her grandmother's funeral. He believes that they are still in communication, but doesn't really know for sure.
I think Medusa should be in
I think Medusa should be in the running for a Mom of the Year Award!
They will most likely clam up and not talk to her.