I posted earlier about my BS's SM's dad passing away. I opted out of the funeral and visitation since BS's dad volunteered to pick him up and carry him. I just settled on a polite "sorry about your loss" conversation with his SM.

My BS graduates from high school this year. His school asked for baby pictures and DS didn't really want to send any. Apparently, the school contacted his BD and his BD asked me. I explained that BS didn't wish to send any. BD decided to take some pictures he had to the school. I asked him to ask my BS about it. My BS comes home from school and tells me that his dad dropped off pictures at his school. They were pictures of BS and SM's dad. BS told me he didn't really want the pictures in his year book but didn't want to hurt his dad's feelings.

I told my BS if he didn't want the pictures in his yearbook to tell his teacher and she doesn't have to put the pictures in the yearbook. BS lives with me full time so it isn't like his dad or SM would ever see the yearbook (unless they bought their own). I basically just told BS that he was 18 and he just needed to make an adult decision. He could put the pictures in the yearbook or he could just say thanks but no thanks to his dad and SM. I also told him that I would stand behind any decision he made.

My DS was never been really "that" close to her parents. Over the past five or six years, he hasn't seen him that much at all.

I understand that she lost her dad and I am sure BD is trying to appease SM and doesn't really know what to do. I am not going to address this with him because it is basically a decision I told my BS to make. I am not sure if BD and SM is turning my son's yearbook into a memorial for her dad or just thinking that DS may want the pictures in his yearbook.

I am not upset about it but just thinking out loud. I was just really caught off guard that he would actually think about taking those pictures to the school. I feel that BF may be trying to over compensate because SM can't have kids with him. He had a vasectomy after BS was born and I guess never thought about it at the time that he would run off with another woman and she may would want children. Then again, maybe he is just a typical BD who thinks that SM really wants to be all involved in his kids life. Maybe SM doesn't even know about it yet.

On a plus side, I have waited anxiously since the divorce for my youngest BS to graduate from high school and it will happen in June. I will be celebrating like crazy because I will no longer have to deal with the BD and SM. Of course, I will still be cordial and will see them from time to time, I am sure. I will no longer have to update them on grades, sickness or anything else. Yes, I always shared grades and sickness with him. I am already doing the happy dance...