Well hot damn!
So... I have a newish friend. She is a somewhat newish GF with one of DH's really good friends. We have hung out a few times as couples and her and I message each other, text, etc.
Well her birthday is Memorial Day weekend. And she wants us to go camping with her and her BF!
I tell her that we would not be able to camp until later on that Saturday because of graduation but we could come after. She says, okay no problem!
So I mention it to DH and at first he acts a little funny about it. But he never mentions YSD graduation. But he was definitely acting a little weird about making the commitment. I wasn't going to bring up YSD graduation or SIL, waiting for him to bring it up. I dropped it last night because I had other stuff going on.
So today I send him a text "YSD graduation is actually on that Saturday of Memorial Day weekend in the morning but we could do camping afterwards"
And he responded back "Okay sounds like a plan".
So hot damn! Maybe it's going to work out after all.
If he brings up SIL, I will tell him, she can stay Friday night and then leave and either head home or go to a hotel Saturday when we leave for camping. But I am not going to hold off on planning anything waiting to see if she is going to come or not come.
He may still push back if SIL confirms she is coming but that would be right before the graduation and by then the camping site will be reserved and paid for.
So all my stress and aggravation for nothing and it looks like it is going to turn out. 
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can I say told you
can I say told you so........
why are we always thinking ahead and stressing over stuff that might never happen... dammit why can't we be like men and not worry about the future at all
Ugh the extra wrinkles and
Ugh the extra wrinkles and grey hairs that I probably got because of this...
And not to be a downer... but we will still have to deal with SIL if and when the time comes.
But seriously- the day child support ends we will be sitting out in nature with a drink (or 10) enjoying the company of good friends...Eeeeekkk! I am so excited!
So all my stress and
So all my stress and aggravation for nothing
This happens to me so much that now I worry if I'm not worried enough about something!
Ha Ha! I'll just find
Ha Ha! I'll just find something else to stress about!
DH won't do anything for YSD
DH won't do anything for YSD graduation other then going to the ceremony.
I told him we could go camping after YSD graduation. At that time he could have told me No to the plan. I would have been "fine" with it.
SIL already said she doesn't need DH to celebrate her niece's graduation nor does she need DH to hold her hand. So honestly I don't think we should work our whole weekend around SIL maybe being in town for a graduation she can navigate herself.
If and when SIL gets a hold of DH about that weekend then I'll let him decide from there. I would be disappointed if he changes his mind but I will vent here about it and not to him.
She's on maternity leave so she can come whenever and stay up until we go camping.
Do you think DH will let SIL
Do you think DH will let SIL stay at your house while you are gone? We would do this in my family.
But that would kinda creep me out for DHs family to stay there while we were gone. (But some of them are just trash so that is the reason)
That is something that could
That is something that could happen. I think she would be respectful. And I'd have to tell her the skids aren't allowed over. BUT I think DH likes knowing that when we leave, the house is safe and good to go and not have to worry about anyone being there.
Why is it that your DH
Why is it that your DH doesn't want to do anything for SD after the graduation?
He never did with OSD and SS.
He never did with OSD and SS. Went to their ceremonies and then that was that. They went out with their friends. He'll probably take YSD to dinner sometime later to celebrate.
My DH isn't a planner or really believes in big celebrations.
Woohoo. Funny how things work
Woohoo. Funny how things work out!
Thank goodness for the friend
Thank goodness for the friend for having a birthday that weekend and being an early planner!
I think you are like me and
I think you are like me and can sense a train wreck coming a mile away. And everything dh or his side of the family plans is a train wreck because they don't think things through and throw it together at the last minute and inconveniencing others is not something that bothers them! I hate it And have gotten to where if I had other plans and he can't go at the last minute because of these shenanigans they didn't think thru, I attend my plans anyway and leave him to the super-not-fun obligatory mess he and his family create.
I think right now you have a good plan going, but I sense the possibility of last minute SIL or even DH requests. I'd have to prep myself for those and how I will respond or what I will do....but that's just me being jaded after being thru this with dh many times.
Exactly. I don't want to feel
Exactly. I don't want to feel like I know how other people are going to act BUT I have seen it enough to have a pretty good idea of how things are going to turn out.
DH likes the idea of his sister staying. He likes being around her. I too enjoy her. BUT he doesn't want to spend his weekend dealing with her and 2 kids, one being a newborn. It's a Holiday weekend. Having a newborn around really limits anything that we would want to do. And again like SIL said, she isn't there for us, so why should we make plans around her?
And SIL thinks she's being this awesome aunt- but really if she even decides to come, she's going to realize how much of a waste of time it was and how hard it is with a 3 year old and a newborn.