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Submitted by Highlybothered1 on Sun, 10/30/2016 - 10:52pm

Hi I'm new to this site. I have 3 teenage stepchildren. Recently one of the stepchildren stole $100 from me & the other (has yet to be confirmed) has stole makeup from me. Their father hasn't done much as regarding to the one who stole my money and I'm so livid with him. My mother asked me if this is what I want to live with and I'm not sure anymore. They have stolen from me in the past. Been with them for 5 years. I love my husband but his kids are making our relationship troubled. He has tried counseling with them but I see no progress & I tried to understand them by trying to bond with them but they refuse all I give. Their bio mom moved to another state. What do I do with this situation? Thanks!

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Aeron's picture

Submitted by Aeron on Mon, 10/31/2016 - 6:29am

Agreed. Your husband and his kids have shown you who they are and what your life with them will be. You need to decide if it's what you want.

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Submitted by CANYOUHELP on Mon, 10/31/2016 - 7:00am

If you have this kind of husband, even if they move out, as adults---you can expect their behavior to be equally as dysfunctional with you....and others in their lives too. Poor parenting has lasting effects.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 10/31/2016 - 7:22am

MSD used to steal from me and DH wouldn't take it seriously and it bothered me so much. It almost caused us to break up because it was so bad. I refused to live my life worrying about people stealing from me. For me, my home is my safe place and my solace and I was not going to have MSD come over and ruin that for me. I basically told DH he better do something about it or we were done.

That is when he started seeing MSD outside the home.

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Submitted by breakingthrough... on Mon, 10/31/2016 - 7:31am

Welcome to the site. Be clear, this is a problem with your DH. He doesn't want the confrontation of wife vs children so is just avoiding. Talk with him, make it clear you will NOT stand for stealing and that you are on the brink of wanting to leave. If he won't deal with it but you still want to stay then warn him you are going to deal with it yourself and take the kids to task - it is your home and your money. Stealing is unacceptable.

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Submitted by Highlybothered1 on Mon, 10/31/2016 - 12:33pm

Thanks for the advice ladies. I have talked to my husband on my feelings towards the situation & he seemed to understand. I told him I would have a talk with his kids when they come home from school. I found my makeup. It was in one of their rooms so, I took it back & I'm gonna confront her on that. Again thanks. I was seriously thinking about leaving actually.