I'm being bullied
Help me. I don't know what to do. I live with my SO and our 9 year son. The ex-wife and her adult children keep calling and making excuses to come over to our house. Excuses, such as favors, always flat tires, brake work, etc. When they come over, they never come to the house alone, it's always in a group and they try to intimidate me by outnumbering me.
My SO allows this and he feels that they could do no wrong.
What should I do?
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What are they doing TO you?
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What are they doing TO you?
They have done a lot of rude
They have done a lot of rude things to me in the past. At a family party all them gave me the silent treatment when I tried to say hi. Then the ex-wife #2 convinced ex-wife #1 to join in with them. This made me feel uncomfortable. So, at his grand daughters birthday I had 2 of his ex wives plus 2 of his step children act like I didn't exist. Luckily his real daughter who was hosting the party treated me with respect (she didn't join in the nonsense).
I told him many times that it
I told him many times that it makes me feel uncomfortable. However, he still lets them come over, and he still does favors for Them. It seems like they always need something. If I have plans with my man, he will break our plans to do them favors.
We have had a lot of problems in the past. He let one of the daughters talk dis-respectfully to me when he was in the room and did nothing about it.
I don't know what to do. I feel so outnumbered. Should I leave before they come over, and come home when they leave? Or should I stay and stand my ground?
I have told him many times to
I have told him many times to stop doing favors for her. However, it turns into a screaming match.
She used to live around the corner and always needed something repaired and he would go to her house immediately to
make the repairs. He doesn't care how angry I get.
If he MUST fix things for his
If he MUST fix things for his grown kids, and they always come in a pack, tell him to go to them. It isn't fair for him to allow them to make you feel uncomfortable in your own home. That is the one place that is supposed to espouse safety
This has been going on for at
This has been going on for at least 2 years.
That is just crazy. My dh's
That is just crazy.
My dh's ex has never entered my home, and never will. My dh would find his crap on the curb if that thought even entered his mind.
Since you are not ok with
Since you are not ok with this (you do not have to be either), tell your boyfriend either he stops this today OR he must leave.
IS your 9 year old his bio son?
If so, I now must assume his ex has been in your house with her group for 9 years?
If your saying he is the dad but in fact is not...kick him out. The boyfriend that is.
You are not married yet,
You are not married yet, never do get married.
Next time BM calls for help, lock the house she can stay outside....and make it clear to your SO - BM is not allowed to enter the house, I would be a total cow regrading this and simply pack SO's stuff and hand it over to BM when she's there again, with the following words: seeing you are always here , here's SO's stuff he's moving back in with you, this way the 2 off you can safe allot of money for driving around to each other's house
I don't get it... are they
I don't get it... are they coming IN your home??
I used to bitch that DH always had to do the running around of skids once we moved to our new house 5 years ago because we're about 20 minutes away from both BMs... but DH was like whatever.. I'd rather run skids than have either one of those skanks step foot (or vehicle) on my property.
I don't understand why your SO is OK with this?
Yes, they are coming into my
Yes, they are coming into my home. In the past he wouldn't tell me that they were coming over. They would just show up. So I had a discussion with him and he started warning me when they would be over.
should I stay when they come
should I stay when they come over and stand my ground? or should I invite some of my friends/relatives over when they are here so I can have protection? or should I stay away from the house?