It has been five lovely days since I have completely disengaged from SS7. This has been difficult for me, to say the least. My previous attempts usually failed or I only partially disengaged.
The joy associated with not worrying if an argument will break out over his eating, bathing, t.v. watching or anything in general, is awesome! Although DH husband has agreed this is best for all those involved I believe it bothers him that I don't interact with SS7. I direct all his questions to DH. No matter how small the request I tell him to go ask his dad. All tasks associated with SS7 I have DH do now.
It has kept SS7 from disrespecting me, talking back, yelling, being whiny or directing any hateful behavior toward me.
I am now slowly working on this with SD15. This will be much harder as she is a girl and there are certain things she only feels comfortable talking to me about.
This is also a test to see if DH can step up and parent his kids. I want them to respect him and listen. It is really my biggest pet peeve that they see him as a door mat just like BM did.
If it weren't for all the insight and knowledge you step talkers provide, I might not have been able to achieve this goal. THANK YOU!!!