*Snort* - Just for the young kids eh? Obviously, you haven't met my skids. The youngest one had a job last year at Christmas time, and she asked me "Which ones are the presents from us"?
~Sigh~ - If I want my DH to have anything, I will have to go out and buy it - and a card too!
Pffffft. No one. DH's bios are stb17 and 20. His skids are 13 and 23. They cannot be thoughtful enough to so much as TEXT the man on any Father's Day or his birthday. I hope they all get ingrown hairs smack dab in the middle of their butt cheeks.
When I was a step mom with 2 skids and 1 BS I used to take them shopping for their dad. Now I am just crazy BM. :). In past years BS made something in school, but not this year. This weekend I took him and we bought my dad a few polo shirts ( he just lost 30lbs so he could use some new duds ) we bought fiance a couple of polo shirts and a t shirt ( he and BS are good buddies and he loves him a lot) and we got my ex a best dad t shirt and a card. God help me..lol.
Usually BM does it or the SDs make something at school.
I asked DP what he wanted and it's something pretty affordable and easy to get, but he has to let me know his final choice no later than Friday...kSDs must make or pick out their own cards (I'll help if BM hasn't already).
Luckily he usually doesn't want to go out and I'll just make something that he likes for dinner.
Medusa NEVER took them to shop for DH's birthday, Christmas and Father's Day. When we were first married, I would buy gifts from the skids for each of these holidays...
once I disengaged, and in my opinion when there more than old enough to remember themselves, I stopped.
I do buy my husband a FD card, but I make sure it says NOTHING but happy father's day to my husband. NO mention of the words "kids" or "children" or "family"
I'm done trying to help SS14 do anything nice for his dad. Last father's day I took him out to get a gift (my idea) since SS didn't ask to get anything for his dad for xmas or his bday the year before and two father's days ago SS went to a baseball game with his friend on father's day and didn't see DH. He didn't even call or text DH on his bday that year either.
After I purchased an expensive watch for father's day last year for SS to give DH, SS14 didn't bother to call dh on his bday (as usual), or ask to get anything for his dad for Xmas.
*insert Beaker singing Ode Joy*
Me me me me me me me me me me me mee meeeememeeee
He laughed when my grandmother shamed him for not getting his father anything for Xmas, while SS recieved a very pricey fishing pole and reel this last Xmas.
I buy for DH from SS5 and SS6, because BM won't. She even takes the father's day things they make at school and gives them to their stepdad (her new husband). I remind SD16 and SD13 to buy a gift, or involve them in the process. For example, this year I got DH tix to see a big soccer game and put all the skids names on it. SDs will owe me some $ towards it, and the boys are too young. Same goes for birthday and Christmas.
SDs, while self centered a bit as they are teenagers, can be very sweet . They always pick out really good, thoughtful gifts for me and pay with their own money. SD13 picked out and purchased a really cool locally made beer mug for DH for father's day this year, but I still included her name on the soccer gift
SS30 was grown when I met DH so I never felt the need to facilitate any presents between the two of them.
I am sure SS will as usual do nothing - but now that he produced a spawn with BabyMama he will most likely expect the world to bow down and worship him. He will be as disappointed as DH always has been.
I used to. Last year was the final time I did it. I am not stressed about my husbands birthday or fathers day this year. They are 2 days apart. There is no anxiety about taking Chucky out and literally forcing him to acknowledge my husband as his father. There will be no screaming or tears, people judging me, prostrating in the middle of shop floors, refusing to pick a gift. Screaming "He's not my dad. I only want to buy for my real dad (meaning SF)". I am relieved.
The thought hadn't even crossed my mind until I saw this post and realized that SD8 will be with us on Father's Day. I didn't get anything for DH from DD3 so I'm not going to get him anything from SD either. I was just planning on taking him out for a nice dinner.
dh is not blind, he knows who gifts come from - the kids have no income.
he's never had any problem with it. and he doesnt expect handmade gifts as the boys have never been the crafty type and are now pretty much past that age anyway. i'll pick up a card, we'll all sign it, i'll give dh his gift, and that works for us.
I dont know that i will be putting any effort into his fathers day even from our bios because he was such an ass on mothers day and didnt even say it to me.
So i am leaning to doing nothing. Lol ill send him a text.
I dont know that i will be putting any effort into his fathers day even from our bios because he was such an ass on mothers day and didnt even say it to me.
So i am leaning to doing nothing. Lol ill send him a text.
Okay, I have 3 step kids: 2 are awesome and 1 is Satan. Last year for Father's Day, Satan couldn't be bothered to sign the card or give her dad the gift. The other two had to wrap it and they're so nice I think they even just signed her name to the card. That was on Saturday since we always have them on Saturday and BM has them on Sunday.
Well, Sunday rolls around and BM texts DH that Satan feels bad she doesn't get to see him on Father's Day so Satan thought it would be great if DH could take them out to lunch. DH was so thrilled I don't think he even realized that it had absolutely zero to do about quality time with him - Satan was hungry and wanted to go out to eat on daddy's bill.... for Father's Day.
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I think for young kids it is
I think for young kids it is going to fall on SM's shoulders. I am not so certain that kids are going to do this on their own.
*Snort* - Just for the young
*Snort* - Just for the young kids eh? Obviously, you haven't met my skids. The youngest one had a job last year at Christmas time, and she asked me "Which ones are the presents from us"?
~Sigh~ - If I want my DH to have anything, I will have to go out and buy it - and a card too!
The SDs are 15 and 17.
I will take them, they use
I will take them, they use their own money they have earned or received.
Pffffft. No one. DH's bios
Pffffft. No one. DH's bios are stb17 and 20. His skids are 13 and 23. They cannot be thoughtful enough to so much as TEXT the man on any Father's Day or his birthday. I hope they all get ingrown hairs smack dab in the middle of their butt cheeks.
Puke hasn't given DH anything
Puke hasn't given DH anything for father's day since I stopped taking her after disengaging. I don't even think she knows when it is.
When I was a step mom with 2
When I was a step mom with 2 skids and 1 BS I used to take them shopping for their dad. Now I am just crazy BM. :). In past years BS made something in school, but not this year. This weekend I took him and we bought my dad a few polo shirts ( he just lost 30lbs so he could use some new duds ) we bought fiance a couple of polo shirts and a t shirt ( he and BS are good buddies and he loves him a lot) and we got my ex a best dad t shirt and a card. God help me..lol.
Usually BM does it or the SDs
Usually BM does it or the SDs make something at school.
I asked DP what he wanted and it's something pretty affordable and easy to get, but he has to let me know his final choice no later than Friday...kSDs must make or pick out their own cards (I'll help if BM hasn't already).
Luckily he usually doesn't want to go out and I'll just make something that he likes for dinner.
Medusa NEVER took them to
Medusa NEVER took them to shop for DH's birthday, Christmas and Father's Day. When we were first married, I would buy gifts from the skids for each of these holidays...
once I disengaged, and in my opinion when there more than old enough to remember themselves, I stopped.
I do buy my husband a FD card, but I make sure it says NOTHING but happy father's day to my husband. NO mention of the words "kids" or "children" or "family"
I'm done trying to help SS14
I'm done trying to help SS14 do anything nice for his dad. Last father's day I took him out to get a gift (my idea) since SS didn't ask to get anything for his dad for xmas or his bday the year before and two father's days ago SS went to a baseball game with his friend on father's day and didn't see DH. He didn't even call or text DH on his bday that year either.
After I purchased an expensive watch for father's day last year for SS to give DH, SS14 didn't bother to call dh on his bday (as usual), or ask to get anything for his dad for Xmas.
*insert Beaker singing Ode Joy*
Me me me me me me me me me me me mee meeeememeeee
He laughed when my grandmother shamed him for not getting his father anything for Xmas, while SS recieved a very pricey fishing pole and reel this last Xmas.
I used to be nice, and now I just don't care.
I buy for DH from SS5 and
I buy for DH from SS5 and SS6, because BM won't. She even takes the father's day things they make at school and gives them to their stepdad (her new husband). I remind SD16 and SD13 to buy a gift, or involve them in the process. For example, this year I got DH tix to see a big soccer game and put all the skids names on it. SDs will owe me some $ towards it, and the boys are too young. Same goes for birthday and Christmas.
SDs, while self centered a bit as they are teenagers, can be very sweet . They always pick out really good, thoughtful gifts for me and pay with their own money. SD13 picked out and purchased a really cool locally made beer mug for DH for father's day this year, but I still included her name on the soccer gift
SS30 was grown when I met DH
SS30 was grown when I met DH so I never felt the need to facilitate any presents between the two of them.
I am sure SS will as usual do nothing - but now that he produced a spawn with BabyMama he will most likely expect the world to bow down and worship him. He will be as disappointed as DH always has been.
I used to. Last year was the
I used to. Last year was the final time I did it. I am not stressed about my husbands birthday or fathers day this year. They are 2 days apart. There is no anxiety about taking Chucky out and literally forcing him to acknowledge my husband as his father. There will be no screaming or tears, people judging me, prostrating in the middle of shop floors, refusing to pick a gift. Screaming "He's not my dad. I only want to buy for my real dad (meaning SF)". I am relieved.
The thought hadn't even
The thought hadn't even crossed my mind until I saw this post and realized that SD8 will be with us on Father's Day. I didn't get anything for DH from DD3 so I'm not going to get him anything from SD either. I was just planning on taking him out for a nice dinner.
dh is not blind, he knows who
dh is not blind, he knows who gifts come from - the kids have no income.
he's never had any problem with it. and he doesnt expect handmade gifts as the boys have never been the crafty type and are now pretty much past that age anyway. i'll pick up a card, we'll all sign it, i'll give dh his gift, and that works for us.
exactly jasper! nope dh is
exactly jasper! nope dh is not MY father, but he is A father - a good father and a good man, he deserves a day set aside to show appreciation for him!
I dont know that i will be
I dont know that i will be putting any effort into his fathers day even from our bios because he was such an ass on mothers day and didnt even say it to me.
So i am leaning to doing nothing. Lol ill send him a text.
I dont know that i will be
I dont know that i will be putting any effort into his fathers day even from our bios because he was such an ass on mothers day and didnt even say it to me.
So i am leaning to doing nothing. Lol ill send him a text.
When the skids were young, BM
When the skids were young, BM did. DH took them for BM as well (all post-divorce bleh). I never have.
You guys will love this
You guys will love this one...
Okay, I have 3 step kids: 2 are awesome and 1 is Satan. Last year for Father's Day, Satan couldn't be bothered to sign the card or give her dad the gift. The other two had to wrap it and they're so nice I think they even just signed her name to the card. That was on Saturday since we always have them on Saturday and BM has them on Sunday.
Well, Sunday rolls around and BM texts DH that Satan feels bad she doesn't get to see him on Father's Day so Satan thought it would be great if DH could take them out to lunch. DH was so thrilled I don't think he even realized that it had absolutely zero to do about quality time with him - Satan was hungry and wanted to go out to eat on daddy's bill.... for Father's Day.