That's my sentiment as well. My kids did literally go through hell and back during my divorce. Their bio dad was bipolar/schizophrenic who contested the divorce based on the grounds that I was under government mind control and was being forced to divorce him. :jawdrop:

Then he came to the house one night and put a gun to my head through the front door and threatened to burn the house down. The SWAT team had to remove him, and when they did they found a hit list in his pocket. Fortunately, the kids slept through all of that. But somehow his slimy lawyer and the buckets of money his family had managed to convince the courts he could have supervised visitation and overnights eow. His parents were suppose to be the custodians of said visitation. One late night he packed the kids in the car and kidnapped them. Made it all the way to Canadian border. Thank God the Canadians could tell he was squirrely and ran the kids names through the database and saw the Amber Alert.

My youngest was only three and has vague memories but my oldest was six and suffered from PTSD after. But we worked through it all with the help of an amazing therapist and a close knit family and community that supported us. My son's school was above and beyond wonderful to us as was our town after this happened. My family and I could not have survived this without that kind of help. My kids are both thriving and have been since this happened five years ago.