Why does BM think the world needs to stop because she is having a birthday? I'm sorry, I'm 37 years old, I stopped giving a shit about my birthday when I had kids. I just don't think it is necessary to make a big deal out of being a year older anymore. Maybe I'm the weird one.

This past weekend was an interesting one with BM. We had planned for SS to go to his grandparents house on Saturday and stay the night. He had a lot going on, but they wanted to take him to all of his games and we were fine with it. So after his basketball game Saturday morning, he left with them. Their plan was to go visit family about an hour away between the basketball and baseball games (that was at 7 PM) and BM "might" go with them. Of course she didn't.

BM showed up to the basketball game (late) and sat alone at the top of the stands, and had her head buried in her phone the whole time. It was strange that she didn't sit with her dad and SM, but whatever. After the game, we get ready to go and SS is walking to our truck to get his stuff to stay the night there. I can see BM and her dad off in a corner arguing. I assume she isn't going to visit family with them. SS works his way over to his grandparents and BM stops and gives him a hug. The look on his face these days when he has to deal with her, is of disgust. He just looks completely disgusted with her. Time for the baseball game. DH was coaching (he doesn't normally coach this team) so he was on the field, and I was in the stands, BM's parents sit almost directly in front of me, which is absolutely fine with me. SS seems a little down in his mood so I asked how his day was and mentioned he seemed a little down. BM's SM said he was perfectly fine until BM called about an hour ago. His phone rang, he looked at it and "grunted" answered it, said "uh huh, ok, yeah, ok, you too, bye". Then he was grumpy. I asked if she called to tell him she wasn't coming, she said NO she called to say she IS coming. Which she did, about 20 minutes late. Set her chair up on the far side of the stands, literally where she could not see ANY of them game. NONE of it. She sat there and text. Got up at one point and took a super blurry picture which she of course posted on FB. "Look at what a good mom I am". :sick: Her SM told me some things through out the night like she googled BM's name and pictures of her in her bra and underwear came up. And that she found out who the boyfriend is, and googled him and PLEASE DON'T LET SS AROUND HIM. Of course not.

Anyway, after the game BM was talking to SS before he left with the grandparents, again he just stared at her with a disgusted look on his face. The next day was when it got... interesting.

It snowed here Sunday, so SS's baseball games were canceled. Gparents planned on taking him to his games, and we would just take him home from there. Well, that wasn't an option anymore. BM's dad called me in the morning. Said that BM was going to go up to their house (they live an hour away) so they can do cake for her bday that is Wednesday and "is it ok if she drives SS home to you after". I REALLY appreciate his asking permission. Proves that he knows she is not really trust worthy and that he knows DH is calling the shots here. So, I turn to DH (more so her dad will know I'm not the one calling the shots, I already knew what DH would say) and asked if he was ok with it. DH said "as long as he feels she is sober, then yes, he needs to be home by 6 for homework". Ok, it's a plan. NOPE... an hour later BM texts DH "I don't want to drive to my dads, I am going to have him bring SS to me half way at 2, cook him dinner and bring him to you at 6, you good with that?". DH responds NOPE. That was not the plan and it isn't ok. If you want to see him, you go to your dads. Otherwise, your dad can bring him home at 6. She argued, she told him he was over reacting she tried to change his mind. He stood his ground. Told her he doesn't want SS at her house AT ALL. She says "he will be here Wednesday for my bday". Ummmm, no. He won't. He has baseball and basketball practice and has to do his homework. You can see him Thursday for a few after school. They went back and forth, but she just kept saying BUT ITS MY BIRTHDAY. NEWSFLASH DUMBASS- NO ONE CARES!!!!

Then she texts SS "I will pick you up from school on my bday". SS says "when is that?". LOL. He is 12 and you aren't a part of his life. He doesn't think about your bday. Sorry. Now, every single post on FB is about her bday. "Solar Eclipse WOW ON MY BDAY NO WAY!". "Might get to snowboard on my bday" No one commments, no one cares. Every year she acts like her bday is some national Holiday. Last year she wanted to keep SS all week for her "bday week". Please. Get over yourself.