Loony, Max and my sad mom
I have told you guys about Loony and Max before.....if you need a refresher, check my blogs.
Man oh man, Loony is such a bitch!! Remember when I told you guys all about her and how my parents raised her and her brother, Max, when their own loser parents bailed on them???
Well - yesterday was the day when we moved my grandmother's best friend, Anna, into assisted living. It. Was. Brutal. We took her from the home where she lived for the last 40 years and plopped her into a one-bedroom apartment where she knows no one - except her kitty, Sweetie.
In the course of 9 hours, we killed one home and created a new one. It was fun, but also sad, She seemed very scared when I left at 9PM last night. Anyway, that is just background for this -
My mom told me that she had gotten a text message from Max's wife, a lovely girl named Teri. Max and Teri have two kids, and my mom has been to Alaska several times to visit, the most recent being about a year and a half ago. When Max came in to see my grandmother (with Loony), her was very cold to my mom and a total ass to me. Verrrrry unlike him.
Back to the text message - "hi WOB'sMom, I am so very sorry and saddened by the loss of your mom. I also feel awful about what I have to say, but Max says I can't have any contact with you anymore. I am so sorry, and I want to thank you for all that you have done for my family."
My poor mom was devastated. She had tears in her eyes and she said, "I really loved him, you know." I know she did - hell, we ALL loved Max the most. I checked this morning, and Teri has either blocked me or has deleted her FB page.
So, Max is about to get a slightly edited version of the letter I sent to Loony. F*&k them both.
My mom is meeting with her attorney next week to take Max out of her will.
I told DH about it last night, he was floored. Max and Teri have been in our home many times and have always been nothing but kind and loving. My best guess is that Loony did or said or twisted something around - but honestly? I am furious with Max and cannot understand what the F&*K is going on......
I told DH that this is what happens when your POS parent(s) ditch you and let someone else raise you, then die without you ever resolving your issues related to that.
He knew EXACTLY what I meant.......I didn't even have to say "it's gonna happen to your kids, too."
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Wow, Loony must have some
Wow, Loony must have some influence over him or has told him a lot of bullshit (which he should know is bull). Either way, he should be his own man.
I feel so bad for your poor mom.
she does, and she did and he
she does, and she did and he should.
I feel bad for my mom, too, and I RARELY feel bad for her.
No - I won't be doing that.
No - I won't be doing that. I am pretty sure I know what happened, and if it's true, then he should have handled it much differently.
I kind of know what the catalyst was, and it WAS Loony. She took something my grandmother told her (about Teri being so incredibly fortunate to have married a man who is so helpful around the house and understands her limitations (she has MS) and how great he is with the kids) and told Max that my mom said Teri was lazy and Max has to do everything.
After making a million unreturned phone calls to Max (very unlike him), he finally called my mom back and told her that he didn't want to talk to her. That Loony told him what she said about his wife.
My mom tried to explain what she really said, but Max chose to believe Loony. This happened a few months before the two of them came to Michigan to see my grandmother when she was at the rehab facility.
Instead of listening to the woman who raised him and giving her the benefit of the doubt, he was a DICK and now he has ordered his wife to cut my mom off, too. Fuck all of them, as far as I am concerned......
No, no it really doesn't,
No, no it really doesn't, tommar. At least not for my mom.
First, her mother dies. Then she has to deal with Loony being a total greedy bitch and now this.
I told her to cut them out and move on, but I am bitch like that and she's not.
That sucks, I hate family
That sucks, I hate family drama and you guys are sure getting your fair share of it. I have to ask though, if Max is/was important why wouldn't you reach out first with a call instead of a nasty letter?
see my comment above...
see my comment above...
Very perceptive of you
Very perceptive of you relating this incident to your DH's children.
I'm sorry to hear you and your family have to deal with crazy, mean relatives. It can get ugly when a family member dies:-( I went through it when my mom passed away in 2008. Some of my older siblings showed me their ugly side. It was aweful!
Hope Max has a change of heart for your mom's sake and I hope this b/s doesn't affect her health.
If Max wants to believe
If Max wants to believe Looney he's looney too.
I would not reach out. If someone wants to be a total a$$, I am perfectly content to let them go off and be an a$$ without me in their life.
Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Yep - I will not be reaching
Yep - I will not be reaching out.
I just called my dad to tell him what happened. He was flabbergasted, and then really, really pissed off for my mom.
Remember, my mom is the one who never had a nice thing to say about him post-divorce and spend much of her time and energy concocting her PAS kool-aid, while my dad has never to this day said a bad word about my mom...
Good riddance to bad assholes....
THIS is what happens when you are totally messed up and don't learn how to handle it.
Grrrrrrr......
Right? Loved him, raised
Right? Loved him, raised him, put him through college....
Hell, she didn't even put ME through college and I was her child!!!
I do feel for her, and I wish she had more of the bitch in her, but she doesn't. And, this hurts. She is choosing to believe (and I agree) that Teri doesn't want to do this, and probably doesn't buy the bullshit, but she won't go against her husband.
Whatever - moving on
I feel terrible for your mom.
I feel terrible for your mom. She just lost her mother and the two kids she raised as her own have just capped on her. Max must not be much of a man to allow Looney to dictate whom he interacts with.
It's pretty surprising to me,
It's pretty surprising to me, to be honest. Max isn't typically a follower, but who the hell knows what Loony has told him?
I am quite sure that she has told him that we stole the condo out from under my Gramma and sold all of her stuff and wouldn't give any of those damn dolls to her, poor poor victim Loony.
I swear to DOG, I feel like reaching out to the state of Alaska to let them know what a shitty therapist they have licensed. I would LOVE to contact all the folks her expert testimony cost them their kids, too.
yeah, I an pretty vindictive. I am sugar and spice when you are a normal human, but if you screw my mom over? You're DONE!!!
sounds like the borrowed
sounds like the borrowed quote in my signature line
what an effing d!@k. they do say bad things happen in 3's, so maybe just maybe things will start looking up.
ba ha ha! It does, doesn't
ba ha ha! It does, doesn't it???
I tell ya, my mom needs a dose of serenity right about now..
If I were Teri, my marriage
If I were Teri, my marriage would be in jeopardy. No way would I be ok with my husband deciding who I can have a relationship with. Especially under those circumstances. I'd be re-thinking a lot of things right about now.
ETA: Sorry for all of this drama falling onto your family's shoulders at this already difficult time. Wishing you all strength and forebearance.
right?? She's not that kind
right?? She's not that kind of girl, though, so I think she thinks she is standing by her man.
thanks for the kind wishes - we kinda need them right now. Now that we have dealt with moving Anna, I am hoping things calm down a little bit.
This is what I keep telling
This is what I keep telling people - faith is NOT blind! You have faith in someone/something because you have used your brain and intelligence to discover that it is YOUR truth, great. You have faith in someone/something because you choose to abdicate responsibility, then welcome to the herd, Mr. Sheeple.
Drives me nuts.