Wow.. what you find out on the internet.
I just found out today that BM was cheating on DH with many guys and one of the guys was SF (per the neighbor who lived across the street from them). she is adamant that she started seeing him she threw DH out. But she has the kids convinced that I “Stole their father”. Oh well… I don’t know why I care. I know DH cheated on her (not with me) and BM told skids and still does (but says I told them). She portrays herself as the innocent victim…
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I wish that the skids would
I wish that the skids would realize it but sadly they have not. I have disengaged from them about 3 years ago and blocked them on my social media. I just can't believe the lies that are told about me. but do I care??? NOPE.
The skids are between 27 and
The skids are between 27 and 30. It is pretty sad. I don't know what they believe. I have been with their father since they were really young.
I moved to another state BM
I moved to another state BM followed. :jawdrop: Skids still live in original state.
Here is a little tidbit from the internet.... BM's own words...
“Just want to give a very deep heartfelt "thank you" to SM (but she calls me by family name, not DH’s we have been married forever)..
You could never ever truly know how much your actions completely improved and increased the happiness in my life.. I admit, it was devastating at first but, had you not run off with my first husband and baby daddy - i never would have met SF... All those bumps and obstacles in the road have led me to smooth pavement in paradise with the most giving, hard working, caring, loving, incredibly sexual, and supportive man!!! You've got DH... Hows that workin out for ya??
Bwahahahaha...”
I could go on... here is one
I could go on... here is one to DH's older child...
I know you guys have love for DH - but there is NOTHING in this world that could make me estranged from you kids.. Even when I was strung out on heroin living in the streets!! (Thank god those days were very short lived)!! But your biological father has been able -for over 9 years now - to reach out or respond back to you kids (without ANY "interference" from me,) yet has chosen not to.. .. I'll tell you the same thing I tell my blood kids: wish him well, keep him in your heart - BUT don't for one second EVER think you did anything to deserve his alienation!! And blaming me is just ludicrous!! You girls are incredibly forgiving and every little girl wants her own daddy to love them; protect them; and be a part of their life.. Maybe someday he'll grow some balls and decide to make his own choices, but til then - just keep living better and better.. You all have incredible stepdads who would literally die for you.. Your bio dad won't even Facebook you for fear of his wife!!
No she is not right. The
No she is not right. The alienation is her fault.
We had them every weekend and while she was on the streets (2 years) we had them full time she never had them. When she finally got them back we went back to every weekend. BM NEVER paid CS while they lived with us. One SD lives with us a few times because BM could handle her. We saw them all the time until they were 18.
He tried to talk to them; if he posted something on FB she would comment and call him a deadbeat(he always paid his CS). When they would visit us, she would constantly text and call them. He doesn’t use Facebook and hasn’t for 3 years. They always change their numbers, our has been the same for 15 years.
Why would I stop him from contacting them..... That is what she needs to believe.
He hasn't used FB in 2 years. was FB around 9 yrs ago????
Here is a convo on a FB post.
Here is a convo on a FB post. This is the day I blocked them all!
From BM to me on a nice post on FB between SD and myself. I skip all the regular stuff until BM chimed in.
BM: you're gay.. oops. er wait.. that's your husband in the closet.. my bad... Stop telling people your a grandmother.. did DD give birth? No.. When she does.. fine.. until then your not.. you've been the ENTIRE reason my kids had no realationship with DH since the day you took him away from them.. stick to your own miserable life now.. you are the trash.. what bothers me and NOT you is the way you tried to ruin my kids' lives and control every single opportunity for him to spend time with them.. And then when the girls needed you guys the most - you turned your backs on them..
Friend: you are seriously STILL acting like a child. You need to either let things go SERIOUSLY get over it, it doesn’t involve you at all anymore... have you even asked your children if they are sick of listening to bitch about it still... pretty sure I would be fed up with YOU by now. She can’t even make a single comment to any of them without you flapping your gums. Grow up move on... aren’t you married? Pretty sure your just STILL acting like the jealous ex you should pay more attention to your own life. Sit on that for a while you look like a fool.
BM: Excuse me miss friend.. You have NO CLUE about anything and completely NOT involved! I could care less. I'm talking about MY grandson.. You seriously have no clue.. back off and stay out of it..
Friend: your head is so far up your ass I’m surprised you can breathe enough to speak. I actually have a very big clue from more sources than you think. And even if I didn’t I can see more than enough from you trying to cause problems every day it’s sad. And you can’t see to take your own advice so until you do i don’t think you can tell anyone else to. You have no right to tell her she isn’t a grandmother... like I said before not blood doesn’t mean shit. you’re so spiteful I am surprised you haven’t lost everyone else around you; you seem like such a miserable person. And that I can tell from how you treat other people.
BM: I don't know you and I'm not going to act like a hoodrat and call you names and defend anything I say to or about SM or DH to you.. If you don't like what you see - remove yourself... your opinion is null...
TO SM… you love to post all kinds of comments on your page calling me a "wannabee" cuz I added DH’s to my profile name (it wasn't about her).. Your just a lowlife.. You try and make everyone around you think twisted shit.. The ones with the blame have the most guilt? Your husband was the one spoutin off tons of blame! First and foremost: My kids have NEVER EVER once said or implied that they HATE their father.. They just want him to show he cares by contacting them!! He doesn't even try.. (he tried but for some reason they never got the messages) pick up your own phone DH and text or call your kids.. do you know how hurtful it is to SS and SD to see comments ALL the time from SM to other SD? A stepmother/stepdaughter relationship is not for ONLY one of your 3 kids (DH has more then 3 kids)!! And the picnic day?? Nice try DH.. that was not planned for you to get together with your kids and try and "reconnect".. It was planned BY SM to give the kids the horrifying news that you were dying of cancer (that was never mentioned at the park, we told them about the cancer before hand and told them it was treatable but his kids all needed to be tested because it is genic).. Once again another extremely perfect reason for YOU to get back and keep in touch with your kids.. They were absolutely willing to give you that chance.. So.. quick question: how many times since picnic have YOU yourself DH called any of them? The answer would be a HUGE FAT ZERO!! (oh wait.. I think you actually called SD yourself once around Christmas or New Years). and it's been over a fricking year since that picnic day!!! Your a disgusting father... 2 of our children are starting their own families and you don't even contact them.. So sad for you.. SM just shut your face.. The only thing you "try" to do is cause drama.. You can play your game until hell freezes over.. Your a computer hacker.. have been for years... One more thing.. the scumbag family comment I made was absolutely in no way referring to certain family members.
She must not have any
She must not have any intelligent friends.
Here is one I had posted when I first joined ST.
https://www.steptalk.org/node/224390
I tried that, she would go on
I tried that, she would go on as the skids and then reply.
You have to wonder about
You have to wonder about people who put stuff like that on social media. Don't you think most people see through that?
BM's friends and family
BM's friends and family believe all the rewritten history.
Medusa told the skids that I
Medusa told the skids that I was sleeping with DH and that's why they got divorced....
Um, I lived on the opposite side of the state and before 2009, the last time I saw DH, he was 15 and I was 17. Also, DH lived with someone for about two years after he divorced Medusa.
The skids believed her anyway....
Sheesh!!
Oh, they are always the
Oh, they are always the innocent victims. :sick:
For years BM was telling SD that I "stole" DH from her (far from the truth). If after all of these years, SD24 doesn't know her mother and the truth by now, I don't know what to tell her and I really don't care what she believes.
Oh yeah, SD has been told I
Oh yeah, SD has been told I am taking her father away from her in the past. And this was during the time she kept dumping SD on me so she could go party hearty. I really don't like BM, just in case you were wondering.
SD had once said to DH i'm
SD had once said to DH
i'm happy ur happy...i really am...but u know what...we were a family b4 that so i think u can seperate urself from ur other family and give us a lil bit of attention...no?
DH reply:
I don't have more then one family, I just have one. That includes all of my children. Why would I need to separate my kids into different families?? SM has been in our family for almost over 20 years since u guys were very young. Why diss her now. She was there for you!
I tell my newly divorced
I tell my newly divorced friends something very similar...they are NOT still "family" with the ex-spouse. The kids, yes, but the ex-spouse, NO WAY!!!
Asshat is family to my kids. Not to me. My kids are family to both me and Asshat.
It's really not complicated and I don't have any idea why these BMs insist that they are still family???
Oh, and your BM really needs to spell her words out and not text like a 12 year old girl. Lil attention? LMFAO!!!
The BM in my BFF's life tells
The BM in my BFF's life tells the grands that my friend stole her husband. BM and my friends DH were only married for 4-5 years over FIFTY effing years ago. When they divorced my BFF and I were in the 10th grade and had not only never laid eyes on this man - we were two math nerds who hadn't even had many dates. My friend did not meet him until almost 2 decades later.
I don't know what the grands
I don't know what the grands think of me or DH.. I am not allowed to see them.
I know they say "Ignore the
I know they say "Ignore the whore" but a year and a half ago BM started her crap on Social Media. She thought I would ignore her like I had been doing, she thought I'd let her followers believe her garbage with fighting back but not that time. I embarrassed her, reminded her of all the secrets she thought I didn't know about her and she shut up. She's only vaguely hinted at me since but never anything as serious as what she had posted before. Sometimes confrontation is their biggest fear, at least for our BM it is because she has more to hide and I have nothing.