Hi,
I'm in need of advice. I have been a SM for 3 yrs already to a 3 yr old (4 this month). The relationship with the BM is always drama. My husband and I have tried to be there as much as possible. We have my ss every other weekend. We have had situation where we go pick him up and she doesn't want to hand him over (we have had to call the cops) or she says to my husband "He doesn't want to go with you" and hands my ss in underwear and without shoes a lot of the times. A few months back my ss had stopped crying when we picked him up and now recently has started crying again. He has told my in laws "papa is bad" saying my husband is bad. Which is not true because he has a lot of fun when he is with us. We are not sure what's going on if the BM is putting stuff in his head. Yesterday, we picked him up and she told my husband that the Pre-school teacher said my ss does not socialize with other kids. She has told my husband more than once that she is going to take my ss to a psychologist to see why he doesn't want to come with us (which we wouldn't mind but she hasn't taken him). Yesterday,when we picked him up my ss has a busted lip and when we got home I asked what had happened to his lip and he said "momma hit me" we asked a second time and he said he "I hit" a little scared. Then we asked again later on and he said his grandma hit him. We ended up filing a report. We try ed to asked the mother but she did not answer the phone. We don't know what to do. Please give advice.