Well....spoke with sd8 late afternoon and she told me BM told her not to speak to me. I explained that i didnt like to see her upset and i promised her that unless she spoke to me first when BM around then i eouldnt speak to her, but only if she agreed to look at me and smile. This would be our way of saying hrllo. She was very happy with that idea, i even joked that we could wink or make a silly face and she laughed and told me not to be silly!!
We then had a cuddle on sofa and she refused to go swimming with SO asking me to take her instead!
Hopefully this smile greeting will work, if she remembers!