I'm a 65 years old widow with two adult step kids that I love like my two bio. Kids. I got into there lives when the boy was 22 and the girl 17.
I had a fare relationship with them right from the beginning . They lived with us. The boy until he got married (3 years later). And the girl until a year after her mom died, she lived with me. The relationship with her never got pass fare , even though I did for her what a father would. I never pretended to be one.I always tried to be more like a friend.
Now my dilemma is if should break ties wit her or not. She is out of the country, work related and the communication is very minimal and indifferent from her part.like she does not interested in having a relationship with me. The way I perceive it, is more like a moral obligation she has. The only way of communication is by texting. Five lines or so and halve of it is occupied by the words “I have to go now have nice day”
Love this girl like my own and she know it, I tell her exactly that every opportunity I have.Is obviousI need from her more that she can give me, which is fine and accept the fact that she doesn't have to have feelings for me. I came into her life by accident and late in her life.
My problem is I feel so hurt and heart broken every time I talk to her. I'm stress to the point that affect my life. I had talk to her in many occasion about it.Her answer is that I have to accept the way she is and doesn't want to cut ties and get very upset.
Now I think my health comes first and I'm welling to cut ties with her she like is or not.
I excuse my self for the way I express my self but English is not my first language.
I would appreciate any comment.