I posted about this a long time ago when this first happened (June 2012)and have posted about it briefly here and there. Some friends recently have asked about it again so I am reposting the story

March 2012- DH and I become engaged. Shortly after DH and SS move into my apartment where I live with BS. DH and I are looking for a house to buy. SS already lived with DH and had been living with him for quite awhile. OSD, MSD and YSD all lived with BM.

We start going through the house process. Well during this time I noticed that the girl skids are starting to act up. Rude, lazy, disrespectful, etc. It was always something. I'm starting to get stressed. Feel overwhelmed, buying a house- mortgage in my name only, having all these extra people in my small apartment, etc.

I keep trying to address the issues with DH and he keeps sticking his head in the sand. I try to nicely bring stuff up to the kids where I am basically given the big F U.

Well we buy the house in June 2012. I still have lease in my apartment until August, so we are in no real hurry to move into house. Taking our time to paint, had to put tile in the family room, sorting through his stuff and my stuff, etc.

Well Father's Day is approaching. I decide Hey need a reset. I'm going to do something nice for DH. Call skids, any plan for DH for FD's? Met with confusion. Like FD- are we supposed to do something???

So I talk to the 4 kids, hey we are going to do a cookout at the new house. I will bring all the food. You guys just need to show up at 2pm. HUGE emphasis on 2pm. I wanted to allow myself enough time to prepare food, decorate house with balloons and set up.

We were only having get together at new house due to space. The gas wasnt turned on yet, so its nice like we could cook or wash dishes.

Well OSD messaged me like 3 different times "Can I make potato salad for Daddyyyyy?" "Sure" "He looooooves my potato salad." "Great, yes please bring it."

So I'm still trying to adjust to the skids and now their annoying habits and behaviors and DH is dismissing my feelings and I am starting to get fed up. I feel walked on, used, and resentful.

Friday before FD. OSD texts me "What is the Father/Daughter dance for your wedding?"

Me- I'm not doing a F/D dance, its just a small reception.

OSD- No I meant, what songs are me and my sisters dancing with my dad at the wedding?

Me- ????? (I'm thinking WTF)

OSD- Well you are taking our dad from us. You now have 5 kids, not 1. I think you need to do something special for me and my sisters with my dad.

Me- No, nope, nada, not going to happen.

So Sunday comes around. I spend $100 on the food. I am going all up. Got up early to start cooking and prepping.

Kids start texting DH at like 10 wanting to be picked up. And I"m like NOOOOOO not at the house. I wanted to decorate and have balloons and go all out and wanted it to be a nice surprise when DH walked in the house.

So around noon, he lives to pick them up. Okay whatever.

Then he texts me, "Can you bring mayo when you come?"

I ignore. Like yeah I got mayo, I'll bring it, I am thinking.

Then he texts back again, "Also bring some mustard, OSD needs it for her potato salad."

I'm thinking... hmmmmm she should already have that in her potato salad if she made it????

Then he calls and is like "Can you hurry up. The kids are hungry."

And Now I am PISSED. Really??? I am doing all this work, and I'm trying to get ready and get to the house and you are rushing me because your kids are hungry?

THEN, This is the straw that broke the camels back. DH proceeds to tell me that OSD is cooking her potato salad in my house.

I'm like WHAAAAATTTT????

I just bought this house. I havent even cooked in it and SHE is cooking in it?

Your kid that I have seen (and you too) for a total of 20 minutes in the past 15 months and she is cooking in MY KITCHEN. Like my FIRST House that I have ever owned and I can't even break in my kitchen?????????

So I basically go the fuck off on DH. Like CRAZY. I was just so tired and fed up. Told him to get the fuck out of the house.

So he leaves with skids. Tells them what happened. They go to Mine and DH's friends house where they are having a cookout. Bring all the drama over there talking about how crazy I am and they cant believe I kicked them out over POTATO SALAD.

I defintely acted out of my normal. But I was so fed up. More with DH then with the skids. I just felt so used and walked on.

I felt like the skids felt like I was just there to provide this big house for them and things they never had with BM/DH.

So OSD posted a bunch of nasty stuff on FB about me and sent me some nasty messages.

OSD posted this pic on FB of DH and the skids with 13 year old YSD sitting on his lap talking about how he is the best dad and no one can take that away from him or them and how much they love him and he has FOUR kids and that is all he needs. This is the picture that OSD has now posted on FB probably 3 different times when she is mad at me and wants to make a point about her DAAADDDDYYYY. Whoomp whoomp.

DH and SS came over to the apartment later that night to get some clothes and MSD tried to get out of the van and "talk to me" but DH made her get back in the van. Basically she wanted to fight me. She was 15 at the time.

At that point I was DONE!!!!!!!!!!

A few days passed. DH called me. I felt so torn and felt kind of tied down because I now had this house. Half his stuff was moved in, other half was in the trash. Half my stuff was moved in, etc.

So we decided to talk things out, which we did. (But things didnt get better for us until counseling in December 2012)

Initially I only stayed with him because I felt scared to have that big ole house for just me and BS, even though I could afford it on my old, but the maintainence, etc. DH knows that too. Now I'm glad we stuck it out. (kind of lol)

When the skids came around after that happened, MSD, YSD, SS, I did apologize and explain what was going on and my thoughts and feelings. I never said not ONE thing to them when Potatogate happened. It was between DH and I. DH put them in it and they inserted themselves into it. The issue didnt have anything to do with me and them.

I THOUGHT that things were fine with us but only later to find out they weren't and they actually were talking behind my back and plotting against me, stealing from me, etc basically trying to get me and DH to break up.

I get it, they didnt like me fighting with their dad, even though they are 100% okay with BM sending DH nasty texts cussing him out, etc that is okay......

OSD a couple of weeks later sent me a message "If you can forgive me for saying those things about you, then I will forgive you for the way you treated my dad."

Ummm nooooo, I can treat the man I am with how I want to. If I want to yell at him and be a bitch, that is between him and I. Not you. So I nicely told her that and made it clear where I stand.

Things with me and the skids never recovered after that. It only got worse.

I wish I had handled it differently, but I think the outcome would have been the same. It just would have happened a different time and way.

So there my friends is POTATOGATE. The straw that broke the camel's back.