OT- what do you call this

I value this groups opions, so I want to know what you guys think.

When you are 46 and have been dating for almost a year what do you call it? This weekend my BF of almost 11 months and I were sitting outside relaxing and playing with my dog. I said something and referred to how long we had been dating. He informed me t hat it always makes him feel bad when I say that we are dating. He perfers to think we are in a long term committed relationship.

Here is the funny part, my boyfriend is not mushy or sensative. I am dating a bonified red necked truck driver who cuses, dresses like a the red kneck kiss t shirt wearing guy he is, who could live on bacon alone. He has his own place I have mine. We never talk about the future except for the fact that his mom wants to know constantly where this is going and makes comments about what Sweet T thinks sbout things at his house. He lived with someone for 19 years and never married her and frankly I am happy with things the way they are.

So what do old people call it when they live apart, never plan on marrying each other or living together?

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Perfect

^ HEAR HEAR! ^

Niiiiccee!

I have to admit it is. He

I have to admit it is. He came off the road and now we see each other every weekend... perfect. Best part too is it isn't all weekend, we do things together or run our own errands and then meet up. He makes sure that BS has time alone with me ( he had 3 step dads so he knows the drill).

We are really different people, I wish he were a little more active and swore less, but he is a good guy and that means everything.

a smart relationship.

My grandpa and his gf called

My grandpa and his gf called each other "companions." They never had any interest in marrying, but they were together/committed for years.

I think everyone has a

I think everyone has a different view on this one. Being that I work in an estate planning attorney's office and we see older couples, I am talking gray hair, wrinkles, etc., "dating". They usually laugh and think it is silly to call each other BF or GF since they have already been married, raised kids and are just enjoying the company of someone that lights that little fire for them. One lady even said I feel silly calling him my boyfriend but what else is there to call him or me. Most often they state they are dating even if it is exclusive, they have made no long term commitments, maintain separate homes and have nothing combined.

Reassure him that "dating" does not mean anything less then what you each feel for each other. At our age it is just odd to use the terms BF or GF. Some people see dating meaning you are not exclusive. I say that if you are seeing each other, being intimate with each other, and not other people, you are dating each other exclusively. It is a closed relationship with no future plans on intertwining your lives.

I never expected to be 46 and

I never expected to be 46 and dating with a 8 year old... but here I am. It works nicely as my son has me to himself all week so my focus is where it needs to be on him.BF and I talk on the phone each night. We have grown up weekend when BS is at his dads and the 3 of us spend time together for part of the weekend when BS is with me.

It just caught me off guard when he said he didn't like how it sounded wen I said we were dating :). Who knew tough guys can be squishy too.

aw how sweet!!! i lean a bit

aw how sweet!!!

i lean a bit more towards his viewpoint. instead of referencing 'dating', maybe you could just use the term of 'being together', as in "wow i cant believe we've been together almost a year already!"

you love eachother, you're committed to eachother and have no intentions of going anywhere else.

My grandmother called the guy

My grandmother called the guy she was seeing (about 30 years after my grandfather's death) her "special friend". LOLOLOL

We are totally exclusive and

We are totally exclusive and have been for some time. He was cheated on by his GF of 19 years, so he is a one girl kind of guy. Hasn't looked at another woman since our first date

He owns his own house about

He owns his own house about 26 miles from where I work and BS goes to school. I am renting a townhome 1 1/2 miles from my sons new school and 7 miles from my office. My goal is to save about 20K in the next 3 to 4 years ( get BS through grade school so he doesn't have to switch again) and then buy a townhome of my own.

If we did live together the savings would be amazing as he has a huge house and a small mortgage BUT my son's best interests come first. I do not want him to switch schools again and I like by 1212 SF home. It is just how I like it, stays very clean and is my zen place. ( my dad says the way it is decorated reminds him of a nice hotel or my aunt says a staged home)

BF is childless so I think it would be a huge change to have us move in...for all of us.

I would say "partner" or

I would say "partner" or "life partner" depending on which you prefer and feel is more appropriate. I also like "seeing each other" or just saying that you two have been "together" for a year.

I'm in the same boat at 52.

I'm in the same boat at 52. It is awkward when introducing or talking about DSO. I just say my Ole Man.

I'm not the fiancé type, when I hear partner I think of same sex (not hating, just my opinion), too old for boyfriend, significant other is too wordy.

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