Hello. I've posted on here a couple of times. DH and I are still together but he has to attented counseling which he has been, and we must start marriage counseling. I have changed a couple of other things as well, he isn't alone with bios and I have stood up for both more and more.
This is the issue today.
Back in the end of 2014 we had gotten behind on a some bills and DH had a shopping (Amazon) issue. I asked him could he please wait to shop until all the bills are paid and talk to me about spending? He was spending around $3,000 a month on Amazon. So today he is mad at me because of spending. He wants the receipt for a trip to Target where I bought cleaning supplies, pet supplies, and a couple of things for my kids. I talk to him prior to every purchase. For example friend is doing Tupperware. I wanted some. Looked through the catalog got my order together went to DH showed him, asked if he was ok with this, if he wanted anything and then bought it. My kids need clothes. Great sales on Monday. Looked at a website for some shirts for BS and some pants for DD I can't do her shirts online, she is TALL and skinny so it is hard. Showed him what I had put in the cart, showed him some other shirts and asked his opinion. He agreed and liked the other shirts and pair of pants for DD. So I added them and checked out.

So I get a text this morning and ALL spending is being put on me. He is not even taking into account the PGE bill, us (yes me and him going to the movies) I took the time to screen shot our online statement and address each charge. He didn't even read the text. In fact, he text me while I'm taking DD to school, I come home and read it and respond. He comes out side looks at me being on Facebook and says oh, so you don't even care? I asked what he meant. He goes on about how I didn't even respond. I made it clear I did and he wanted to argue with me. I had him check his phone again and there is my text. Which he then proceeds to not even read. He wants to print out the bank statement and address each line (which I did in my text). I told him yesterday before I left I checked the bank online, called and cleared a pending deposit and he questions it. In fact, he questions everything I do. He said in controlling and if I can do it so can he. I told him yes you can. All I ever asked for was you wait until bills where paid and talked to me about what you were buying. So yes, please do as I've been doing. He is mad, stuck on I called him a liar back in November. Why did I call him a liar? Because he made a promise to handle spending as I've stated above and then didn't. That is a lie. I stuck on him calling me controlling. I'm controlling because I ask he does as stated above? Who is having to show receipts and justify everything I buy? Not him.

with just about everything from do we have bread to where I go, I am made to prove what I'm saying. He questions everything. If I can't prove it, like I was upset and went for a drive and blared the radio, can't PROVE where I was, he doubts what I say and tries to pick it apart. Yet he doesn't understand why I get tired of him "just saying" the comments about everything.

I posted in my blog about how I needed an exit plan before and how it would take time. Life for my kids is better, I've mad sure of that. Still doing everything I need to do for me. But some of it takes time. You all were right about standing up for my kids. Now, I need help understanding this crap he pulls and how to shut it down. I can't change him, but I can change my reactions so I don't get caught up in it.