All of this occurred in the space of 3 days:

YSS10 who has killed 2 tablets, one laptop 3 times, and 2 phones talked DH into using his brand spanking new tablet at church. DH said what kind of trouble can happen in 30 mins?

Well YSS dropped it 3 times then stepped on it when trying to pick it up because he wouldn't stop dancing. He dances anytime he stands up. So brand spanking new tablet is broken.

SS12 just has an ugly mouth. Yes, some is the age but a lot is just him. And yes, he has been through a lot with BM's total reject of him and blaming so much on him. He is mean verbally and physically.

Friday he had detention for bullying the younger kids. Saying mean things then finally giving one a 'titty twister'(boy) and then kicking him. Hmm...haven't I continually told DH SS12 needs serious help to deal with emotions rather than hurting YSS? Didn't I say someday this would come out at school?

Then SS12 had friend over(this was before I knew about bullying).This is SS12 FIRST friend. SS12 has put a sign on his door about all the rules one MUST follow NOW in order to enter. Friend reads door then tells SS12 he is sometimes pretty mean. SS gets really angry and yells at friend that now he can't come into room. Friend shrugs and says 'whatever' and leaves. DH did I not tell you you need to talk about how to be a friend? We both knew that friend was not going to last with SS treating him like he treats his brothers.

YSS goes to friend's house to play. They change to go swimming and YSS is sent home. Why? Because he has HUGE, thick skid marks in his underwear and friend's mom does not want poop in her pool. I guess the friends were teasing him and mom asked why. when she saw the underwear she freaked. As do I on a frequent basis. Well YSS I told you not ever using TP was going to be an issue in your life.

BM refuses to commit to summer visit dates. Tells skids dad is the root of the issue because he won't let them visit. DH shows skids the texts(and texts and texts) from BM about how this summer isn't a good time for her to have the skids and how they cramp her style. DH has never spoken a bad word about BM which I support but she blames him for stuff like this all the time. She has never paid a dime to have visitation. DH pays to send them and get them ever since she left. Fine, however not speaking up and telling the truth about visitation has caused a lot of drama here. Skids running away, hitting DH, etc. After seeing texts skids were understandably sad however the drama stopped instantly. And guess what? BM was unable to pull the 'keeping me from my children' card she always pulls. She had to actually talk to skids! Not text, not blame, but actually have a conversation with them. A shitty one but hell, baby steps. Wish you would have got on board with this at least last year when the cops had to be called DH!

And finally a good one! OSS18 lives full time with BM now. However I had harped on him the merits of having a job. Get out of the house! Meet new friends! HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY! He finally got a job and got his first pay check! Guess what? He has new friends! He likes doing a good job and having boss praise him! He likes not being at home all the time! He likes having a pay check!