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For those of you in multiple step situations (SM, BM, SD, etc)

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 03/17/2015 - 8:26am

For those of you in multiple step situations, which one do you find the hardest?

Dealing with BM?

Dealing with the skids?

Dealing with your bio kids SM?

Dealing with you own SP?

I am a SD. My mom was remarried once and my dad twice. I have never had any issues as a step children. My dad has been with my SM since I have been 16 and I love her to pieces. I think she is great. Growing up my SF was there for me more then my own bio dad. I was pretty upset when him and my mom divorced when I was almost 12.

My BS doesnt have a SM. My Ex is not in a serious relationship that I am aware of. I would hope to have a civil relationship with any future partner of my ex, as my ex and I get along well and it works for us.

I dont really deal with BM or the skids. 100% disengaged. But I guess the skids would be the hardest situation for me. Just dealing with their b.s and demands, and the holidays, etc.

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Submitted by lillfiredog on Tue, 03/17/2015 - 8:50am

Dealing with BM? I thankfully do not have to deal with her anymore. Both the SS's aged out, she doesn't get CS anymore, so we don't hear from her. Imagine that.

Dealing with the skids? I do not like my SS's. One is 20, works, but is insanely lazy, dirty and rude. But moved out! Yay! The other is 18, an addict, works (when he's not too effed up) and doesn't follow the house rules, regularly. I flip out, DH talks to him, things get better for a week, then it's back to piss all over the toilet, dirty dishes and all the rest that goes with lazy SS's.

Dealing with your bio kids SM? They don't have one. Their bio dad has seen his kids about 10 times in their lives. His choice, not theirs or mine.

Dealing with you own SP? I have a step mom and step dad. They were both great, still are and we never had conflict. I was always good with them, in fact I was more open with my SP's when I was a teen than my bios.

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Submitted by lillfiredog on Tue, 03/17/2015 - 8:51am

DUP

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Submitted by Glassslipper on Tue, 03/17/2015 - 9:43am

BM!
It was PURE HELL, and drove me to the point of considering divorce again simply because of the constant, excessive, abusive and invasive control she had over DH and my home and family.
Till I found this website, I believed that I was being "unreasonable" to put limits on her excessive, invasive, abusive control.

After the advise I got here, I put my foot down and things have been smooth sailing ever since!

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Submitted by Pilgrim Soul on Tue, 03/17/2015 - 8:29pm

I am an equal opportunity discriminator - I hate them all.or almost all. It must be me, not them... I am the common denominator.

BM is NPD/ BPD. Nuff said. We are in court. Other than that, no contact. CS is set to end in 18 months. Can hardly wait. She is a monster and if could get rid of just one source of stress I would get rid of her in my life.

Skids - have pas'd out. No contact for several years. Right now they are a non issue but a monetary drain.
I had skids in my first marriage too and had a decent relationship with them and even a better one with their mother.

My kids' SM is only a few steps behind BM. NPD control freak. My ex is her lap dog. I went through a period of ok relationship with her but it did not last. I regularly talk to my kids about not to marrying a woman like her. My ex is a Disney dad. I don't talk to him. I parent my kids as if DH and I were their only family.

My SM has never been in my life despite being married to my father for 30+ years. I have no relationship with her or him. That's one step family I was never invited into. SM has a daughter older than me, allegedly my step sister. I have never met her other than on Facebook.

What a sad, useless bunch of freaks we all are... That's too bad.