Vicky dumps SS
I don’t have many details on this.
Just vague facts and crude hypotheses
Here is what I do know.
Our neighbor, whose daughter goes to the same school mentioned to her that she has been walking from the bus stop back home with SS every day since Jan. Usually SS gets off at the stop beforehand so he can walk Vicky home. So the neighbor asked us if SS and Vicky were still dating.
DW answered that as far as she knew, they were. Out of curiosity, she checked her FB page. Vicky listed herself as “being in a relationship” since Jan 2015.
So DW asks SS.
“SS? Are you still going out with Vicky?”
SS answers that no, he is not.
“Are you okay?” was DW next question.
“Yeah. I don’t care.” was SS’s response.
I kind of knew that the relationship between SS and Vicky would not stand the test of time. It’s just weird how these teen relationships mysteriously blossom, and then just as mysteriously wither away and disappear….liked it never happened.
But score one for big Drac0! Remember last Christmas how DW and I argued in a store about getting Vicky a high-end Xmas gift? DW decided not to listen to me and get her a necklace; something I told her she shouldn’t do. DW FINALLY admitted that I was right!!!
DW was trying to find out about the reasons behind the breakup. Maybe she dumped him for another guy? Maybe she was fed up that he wasn’t able to spend time with her? I told DW that the one thing I noticed about SS and Vicky is that SS never “engaged her”. He was constantly trying to make her laugh; talking in a funny voice or making faces…and other crap. If you were to ask me, I *think* Vicky finally managed to get SS engaged into a real conversation and realized that all SS was capable of was white noise.
But what do I know?
So what is your hypotheses STalk?
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Where you around when I
Where you around when I posted last year about DW diving into the neighbor's bush to spy on Vicky and SS while they were walking away? I reminded DW about that incident. DW doesn't remember doing that.
Good point! Peer pressure is
Good point! Peer pressure is definetly a factor and from what I hear, Vicky has a large circle of friends.
>It's a Shakespearean
>It's a Shakespearean tragedy.<
>A viciously cruel step father. <
“And what’s he then that says I play the villain?
When this advice is free I give and honest?”
I'm always a bit lost without
I'm always a bit lost without punctuation when I read Shakespeare(ian).
And how is your DW coping
And how is your DW coping with this loss?
Obviously she is very
Obviously she is very concerned about SS's feelings. She told him if he wants to talk about it, she's there for him (which he won't).
But right now, SS has other things on his mind....It's day 1 of the electronics ban in our home and SS is already asking where his iPad and PS3 controllers are. DW just called to ask me and I said I bought them with me to work.
DW: "Why did you bring them to work!?"
Me: "Why is SS asking for them if he knows he can't have them!?!?"
DW: silence
SS is home by himself a whole
SS is home by himself a whole hour in the morning and a whole hour in the afternoon when he comes home from school. That's a whole two hours every day! Last time we imposed a ban on SS, what does DW think he was doing in those two unsupervised hours?
DW doesn't get it. She really doesn't. I came home early once and actually caught him playing video games the last time he was punished! When I challenged him he said "Oops. I forgot I was punished."
I tell this to DW and she believed him. So yes, by taking his precious electronic gadgets to work and cutting the circuit breakers to the WiFi and the TV cable feed assures me that SS can't do anything in those two unsupervised hours except read a book or stare at the four walls! God forbid he actually try and study!
I think DW’s emotional
I think DW’s emotional enmeshment with SS prohibits her from seeing the truth, even when presented with the facts. It’s like someone telling me, “Your wife cheated on you”. I can’t believe it. Even if I was shown photos, my first instinct would be to question the validity of the photo.
A crude analogy, but it is the only way I can explain (to myself at least) why DW so readily believes SS lies.
But my biggest concern is that SS knows this and lately he has proven to be quite adept at pulling the wool over his mother's eyes.
I thought the whole incident with the project (where I pulled out our phone records to prove that SS lied about contacting his project buddies) would have shattered those rose-tinted glasses of hers, but when it comes to DW and her precious pumpkin, it is always three steps forward and two steps back.
I do, but DW still tries to
I do, but DW still tries to spin-doctor the situation. "Yeah but he got a decent grade on the project...."
Uh...yeah, but only because the teacher was nice and gave SS's group a little extra time to work on it. *groan*. So these reminders I give DW just starts another argument. I suspect, I'll have another one waiting for me tonight when I get home. But I am standing firm. No way am I bringing SS's gadgets home. They are staying locked away in my filing cabinet here at work.
Maybe. I dunno. The older SS
Maybe.
I dunno.
The older SS gets, the more serious his fuck-ups become.
Exactly how serious a lie will be before DW sees that her precious adorable tall-baby is not so adorable after all?
>Exactly how serious a lie
>Exactly how serious a lie will be before DW sees that her precious adorable tall-baby is not so adorable after all?<
"no mom, honestly it was a dog that ran out in front of the car, not a small child like Mr Policeman says."
"no mom, honestly i did not give our real names and address to Mr Video Gamer Turned Axe Murderer who's standing on our front doorstep."
DW living vicariously through
DW living vicariously through her offspring. . . once again. I'm wondering if she puts this much effort or concern into her bios with you, Drac0.
My own mother was kind of like this. She had low self esteem and married the first person that asked her. Then I too, followed in those footsteps. She would be overly concerned about suitors liking me. Feeling a need to foster any relationship I had even though both my parents knew that my first husband was a selfish tool.
Kind of the exact opposite of "my daughter/son is too good for your daughter/son."
DW is an absolutely fantastic
DW is an absolutely fantastic mother with BS and BD. I have zero complaints there. She disciplines them when she must and rewards them when she feels it is deserved. I write this with absolutely no hesitation that DW is the perfect mother of my bios. We have never, not once ever had a single disagreement over how to raise BS or BD.
In point of fact....BS will be exactly the same age SS was when I first met him. It's still early to tell, but I can guarantee that BS's personality will not be the same as SS's.
BS has proven that he is not needy, clingy, unfocused or in constant need of attention as SS was.
It's the same old argument.
It's the same old argument. SS is "fatherless" or "isn't in a nuclear family" or "from a broken home" or a "COD" so he has to be treated differently, aka spoiled and turned into a selfish, entitled, useless FTL babykins. I wonder how DW would answer this question: "If you were single, would you rather date someone because he PITIED you or because he really LOVED you?" Because there is no love of SS from DW. Just pure, unbridled PITY.
Whereas BS and BD are from a nuclear family so they can be disciplined and provided with love, guidance and structure.
There's a couple of
There's a couple of explanations that come to mind:
A) With BS and BD, she knows they have a loving and supportive father. With SS, she still feels she has to make up for Donkeykong's negligence.
C) I am involved in my kid's lives. I'll play with them, take care of them...At night the kids will wake me up or call for me if they are sick, need to go the bathroom, etc...Never their mother, always me! So this alleviates DW and doesn't stress her out as much. SS NEVER, not once, has come to me for help on anything.
A) She's been told that MANY
A) She's been told that MANY times from many different people INCLUDING SS's child psychologist. She changed her attitude towards SS a bit and pulled back on the coddling, but then she ends up battling her own guilt. So this is a constant struggle for her.
C) OOh boy....Okay, you are right there. But I actually prefer that the kids wake me up rather than DW. The only reason I say that is because once woken up, DW cannot go back to sleep. Whereas me, I can shut myself off like a lightswitch. The kids just got accustomed to me being the "First responder" in the middle of the night. It's not like the NEVER call on their Momma for something.
They're teenagers and he's
They're teenagers and he's incredibly immature. You don't need to be a rocket scientist to come to the conclusion it wasn't a live-long love affair.
FFS.