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He is trying to kill me!

Patty Cakes's picture

Submitted by Patty Cakes on Sun, 02/15/2015 - 2:38pm

OK, maybe not exactly, but that's what it feels like. My 12 yr old SS is loud as hell, moody, emotional, rude and unappreciative. What's more, he is a bad influence on my 7 yr old biological son.

I can honestly say, I DO NOT LIKE HIM. Actually the thought and sight of him makes me angry.

His father pretty much allows him to get away with murder. He feel bad that his xwife abandoned their son for another man. So to overcompensate, he isnt very hard on him.

I however would like to stick my foot up his ass.

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Submitted by WTF...REALLY on Sun, 02/15/2015 - 2:54pm

We have been there. It just sucks. Choices are engage and try to parent Ss or disengage and learn to not let him bug you.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sun, 02/15/2015 - 3:19pm

It's actually a fair question. She states she is a newlywed. Why jump in and recently marry a guy who doesn't parent his kid? I'd think working out parenting issue would have been a priority before recent ' I do'.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Sun, 02/15/2015 - 10:21pm

The thing that swayed whether I move half a world away to marry DH and live with him is that we are on the same page regarding the kids. He was, and here we are.
If he was a guilty father and allowed his sons to behave like feral cats I would not have married him if he even lived next door.

When we have our own children and decide to remarry we have to put the well being of our kids first. And exposing them to this kind of crazy is just unfair. Can your son go and live with his dad instead of you?

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Submitted by Patty Cakes on Mon, 02/16/2015 - 6:33am

SS is not a bad kid. He does have "bad moments", some of which I attribute to the onset of puberty.

I thought this site was a place for step parents to vent. But I can clearly see that it is a place to be judged for your parenting decisions by people who are unhappy in their current situations.

Thanks for the eye opener.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Mon, 02/16/2015 - 12:40pm

Omg- sorry patty cakes. Sorry about the unwelcome wagon. I think many if not the majority of the folks on here are married to a man that doesn't parent adequately. And yes, many of our steps are bad influences on our own kids. Sometimes we don't see these issues until te ring is on our finger, sometimes we think we can help change their parenting ( and in some cases actually do).

She didn't say that the kid was a psychopath- just that he was loud, unappreciative, etc- which is often par for course for 12 year old boys

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Submitted by Patty Cakes on Mon, 02/16/2015 - 2:43pm

Thank you very much. I love him dearly, just going thru some growing pains and needed to vent.