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DH Called SSociopath's Bluff!

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 9:27am

So, DH called SSociopath16 last night to ask him his opinion on changing schools (not that it matters). We know damn well he doesn't want to, but he knew that that's what would be happening if he moved to BM's full time. He's in a different school district. SSociopath didn't answer the phone (of course) but did call back a few minutes later.

DH: Hi, SSociopath. I hear your mom's looking into you changing schools.
SS: *crickets*
DH: SSociopath? Hellooooo??
SS: Uuuuhhhhh.......yeah?
DH: Your mom said you want to change schools?
SS: Yeah?
DH: Is that what you want?
SS: Uuuuuhhhh...yeah???
DH: Okay. Great! Then I'll tell your mom to go ahead and get the ball rolling. Have a great weekend, SS!

And DH hung up.

I KNOW SSociopath was banking on DH to disagree with BM's request. I would have LOVED to be a fly on the wall in BM's apartment during that conversation. SSociopath is now shitting bricks. Lesson learned, SSociopath? Maybe? You run away to Mommy, lie to hear about being abused and cause her to call CPS, and blow your father off completely, don't expect him to go to bat for you. Can't stand up to Mommy and tell her what you really want? You get what you get.

DH also said last night that he needs to further disengage from his son. There's nothing he can do for the kid. Nothing. There's no point worrying about a situation he can't control. He's ready to enjoy our life and let SSociopath's chips fall where they may. He's 16 years old. He's made his choices. He can live with the consequences.

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Willow2010's picture

Submitted by Willow2010 on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 10:44am

Your DH is one of the very few DHs that I feel sorry for on this site. How does one get over one kid NOT actually being his kid and then the "real" kid, being PASed so quickly?

Poor guy.

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 11:01am

Thanks for your kind words. I'm not sure it's something he'll ever get over, but he's dealing with it. We have a kick ass therapist! He's been dealing with BM's shit for 17years. He's so done with her, including using those kids as weapons. If that means he disengages completely, so be it. A person can only take so much!

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Submitted by Sports Fan on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 11:39am

My DH should come too. He hasn't lost skids quite yet but it isn't going to be long.

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Submitted by kathc on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 12:34pm

I wish we really could get them all together. Of course, then we'd have to admit that we're on here talking about them and the BM and spawn...lol

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Submitted by Nette5 on Fri, 02/13/2015 - 12:16pm

My DH would benefit from that vacation of PAS'd dads. We haven't seen the SD16 in almost 2 years for more than about 20 minutes total and SS19 has been gone for 10 months without a word or sighting.

Bonus for me is that my DH seems to be more accepting of losing the skids than I am... I had to be overly involved with SS so the loss of him, even as peaceful as it is now, has been hard to accept. I was essentially SS's jailer and I had to know where he was & what he was doing every moment of every day for about 4 years (started because of probation, continued for my BS's safety).

Maybe my DH could help some of your DH's with the transition of losing the skids.