It insults our intelligence that BM thinks we believe her stories.

ugh i need to vent, i don't even care if anyone reads this. Just need it off my chest.

Yesterday was just stupid as hell and so aggravating. Back story BM took SS9 to the ER last Friday when he peeing blood for the 2nd time in 2 months. BM called DH in the am all freaked out because they changed SS9's Doctor appt. He was supposed to see the Urologist Wednesday but she said they changed it because it was more serious than they thought. Um don't you think if it was more serious they would want to see him sooner, not later? Then as the conversation progressed it changed to they didn't have the right equipment. I get that we like in the middle of no where but it is one of the bigger hospitals, i think that have the equipment. So DH flat out asked her which it was. She didn't even realize that she had changed the reason during the conversation. he had to point it out to her!

He called me and I gave him all the numbers that he needed to figure out what was really going on. He called and they told him that it was changed because the doctors there looked it over and thought it best that he see a pediatric urologist, which makes PERFECT sense. I am guessing that they didn't see anything too odd on the scans or they would have said something or wanted to see him right away. They just weren't sure i guess. I get that there is a difference between a grown man and a little boy.

DH then waited for BM to call him back with the new Appt details. When she called she told DH that SS9 called her from school and yelled at her because I mixed up the boys lunch boxes. She said that she told him to just eat it. Then proceeded to tell DH about the new appt, which is Friday. He told her that he called and what they said, she got all defensive and swears that they told her something else (though she apparently can't remember exactly WHAT they said ) lol. DH is going to talk to his boss today about getting off to go to the doc, he really needs to go. I get the impression that BM doesn't want him to go for fear of what he is GOING to say to the doctor. Both times he peeed blood where at BM's house on her weeks at the end of the week. We think he was just dehydrated or it's something that she is feeding him as there was no signs of infections at EITHER ER visit, just an 'inflamed' tube from the kidney to the bladder.

Now i felt bad about the lunch mix up so I made the boys brownies for when they got him so they could have a good after school snack. There lunch differ slightly but not enough to leave them famished. SS9 was enjoying his brownie when I went through his school bag like I always do - i found a McD happy meal box in there! I asked him about it, apparently BM brought it to him at school. Funny she didn't mention that at all. I was mad. I threw the whole thing in the trash, toy and all. SS9 confessed to calling her for that very reason, to get her to bring him something else. I told him that he needed to apologize to his mother for making her go out of her way for no good reason. furthermore I texted BM and informed her that it was against school policy to bring your kids fast food to school as it is unfair to the other kids. It's in the handbook we get every year!

She told me that she called the school and no one complained, I was honest and told her that DH and I were complaining, it's not fair. I added that he doesn't even like McD's, he cried the last time we took him there (because he goes there so much at BM's house). So she switched to she didn't know what else to do she only had 20 mins. I told her that she could have called ME, it was my mistake and I was home, I COULD have made another lunch if SS9 was so bothered by having his brother's and ran it over there, not that I would have being as he had a lunch. She said she would next time. I also told her that I was going to have SS9 apologize to her for yelling at her, she said not to worry about it she didn't really think about it like that. I said you are his mother and regardless of your relationship with DH, he will respect you. I don't think he yelled at her. he played her. He knew I wouldn't do anything about it and that was the number he had. SS9 confessed that he talked her into it. I am guessing that we weren't supposed to find out about it. My friend also pointed out that she could have ran into the store just as fast and grabbed a lunchable.

I am just over all the stupid little pointless lies! They serve no purpose. I would have been less angry if she had told DH or I that she took SS9 lunch. I am guessing that she didn't because she knew that we wouldn't agree. And why lie about the appointment? I think she wants it to be more serious than it really is, it's like she wants there to be something wrong with him other than her being a bad mom. I mean it could be something i guess but I would rather wait until the doctor looks at it before I get all worked up.

Anyone else got any entertaining/laughable pointless lies from a BM or BD? I could use a chuckle.