Ugh! Super tired. I got no sleep.

It's about 11 last night (which is late for me and DH to be going to bed) and we are heading to bed and his work phone rings. Okay. He deals with that. In the bedroom. Light on. Loud as f*ck. Whatever, it sounds like he is about to go out on a call and I can get to sleep- awesome.

At 11:30 his personal cell phone rings 2xs and then a text. It's OSD22.

So DH finishes his work call and calls OSD back.

#1- People have to work! Why is she calling so late? And #2- this is the second call from her in the past couple of days. Prior to that its been probably since July that she last talked to DH. And this is after she had been in our town (she lives out of state) for almost a week THEN she calls DH on her way out of town.

So since DH is in the bedroom talking to her I pick up 2 things from conversation. #1 that someone died and #2 that OSD is wanting to move back and she wants DH to help her find an apartment. (He works for a rental company) I think she thinks that DH can get her a deal or help her because she has bad credit???

So while on the phone talking about who passed I hear "oh no. Oh wow. I'm going to have to make it there (another state) for the funeral. wow. that sucks."

So he hangs up and I'm like oh no who died?

He tells me his Aunt (his mother's sister) and I'm like WOW okay what happened and he is like Oh it must be cancer. I'm kind of confused because I have never seen Aunt on FB talking about cancer or that she was sick.

I'm really surprised that the news would come from OSD who has little contact with the family outside of FB. Of course FH can be the most valuable place for information, but why havent we heard this news from DH's mom or aunts or sisters?

So DH goes into automatic mode which I hate- "I have to find out when the funeral is. I have to go."

I'm like Okay DH but we are kind of broke right now and its gonna cost a lot to travel. And he gets all pissy with me. I HAVE TO BE THERE!

In the 4 years that I have been with DH I have NEVER heard him talk about this Aunt. He has never even had a conversation with her this whole time we have been together.

Now obviously if he needs to go to the funeral I will support that.

But you have to know my DH to know why I'm kind of like :? about this funeral. He rarely talks to his relatives. They NEVER call him. He is the one that goes and sees them. (6 hours away) Realistically (which I am a realist) money wise, travel wise, it doesnt make sense. But now that she has "passed" he is freaking out.

Plus he then goes right into the conversation with OSD about an apartment for her when she moves back to this state. Um okay... you dont seem that upset.

So DH leaves for his call and I hop on FB. I'm actually really surprised that this Aunt has passed and I know she has kids, etc.

Well through FB snooping it's actually the Aunt's husband's mother who passed!!!!!!!!!

Aunt is alive and well!

I'm just annoyed at this point. OSD is an idiot. DH is an idiot. This is a recurring problem with DH. And a huge a pet peeve I have with him.

He just goes through the motions of life without really thinking about stuff. He does things that he thinks he has to do- out of obligation.

I always hear "Oh I have to travel to X state (where his mom and siblings and dad's family is) or I have to travel to Y state (where his mom's side of the family is- aunts/uncles/cousins). It's like he feels an obligation to do this.

Now I know you can go a long time without seeing/talking to a relative and still be upset at their passing. I totally get this.

However its like DH wasnt even upset but he felt like he just HAD to go even though it made no sense financially. This is typical of my DH.

Ya know I wasn't being heartless about someone's passing but its another example of DH making stupid decisions without even thinking. Or just reacting off of news.

Plus OSD is a freakin idiot. I dont even know how she even got the idea that the Aunt "passed" away. Like it took me all of 2 minutes to figure out who actually passed away.

Okay this is part 1 of my vent- more venting about OSD possibly moving back to this state in another blog.