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Reached my boiling point with the skids because of DH

Dontknowwhyaminthissloppymess's picture

Until about a month or two ago I have stopped trying with the skids and I chose to stay away at all costs. I have been with my DH for lil over five years and two years ago he decided it was time for me to meet his kids SD13 and SD6 things were now getting serious. Initially I thought I love this man surely I will love his kids as well but you now I find myself consumed with disgust for them just thinking about them I want to throw up. I have had these Skids just be plain rude to me and he didn't see at all nothing at all. The SD13 would chat to her mom about me in front of her, would walk in with all amounts of attitude banging doors even friends that would come over would say that child has major attitude. When I realised just how stressful it was to be around these kids I decided that when they came to visit daddy for the week am gona be gone. Back at the ranch lil miss drama drama mini wife sweet lil voice at 13 is the filthiest child out of the two. Everything is thrown on the floor her panties, socks, clothes,pantliners pens,hairbands, magazines everything is on the floor and she will leave her shoes on the bed, Lets just says where she goes there is a trail of dirt. To be honest my feelings for them changed when I realised that DH is suffering from the disney dad syndrome. We have a child together who is 3 but this child of ours gets less love than his precious two from the broken marriage.

The BM works but earns a low salary meanwhile DH has to pay for everything for the skids the healthinsurance, school fees, clothing, hair, school transports everything you name it everything. They have 50/50 custody and he has to pay child support for the week that she has them. For our child he only pays for her creche fees and transport thats it. So what I noticed was that when he had money he would make sure that his skids get their hair done, pay their fees first and tell me he will give me the money for our bio child when he gets more money, this man after getting the skids hair done, he would take pictures of the SD6 his favourite and save it as a wall paper, rush the SD6 to his mother’s house to show her how cute she looks BTW she has be the ugliest girl ever. He will run around for his skids even prepare food for them, wash the bathroom for them but when they not there, he can't do eisht for our bio.He sees the skids every morning to take them to school but yet the week they are not there hes has them saved as his wallpaper, just them two SD13 & SD6 our bio child NEVER never been saved as a wall paper although he also doesn’t see her for a week. So one day I just packed my things and told him to stay with his beloveds because clearly they mean more to him. My dislike for them has more than doubled or tripled because of jealousy maybe who knows but I just find myself just not wanting to be around them. Now DH yesterday read a few posts on this because he saw on it and wanted to see what I was reading. I reading the posts he just suddenly became moody and and give me the evil eye and when I would ask why his giving me the evil eye he would deny it and call me crazy………all am saying is that this blended family is hard esp when the BM is low down lazy slob that demands money for everything under the sun. looks like am heading into the singles world again 

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Anon2009's picture

Given SD6's age and the timing of things, and this situation, are you the woman DH left BM for?

twoviewpoints's picture

Why does your Dh not see your joint bio-child for a week at a time (" our bio child NEVER never been saved as a wall paper although he also doesn’t see her for a week")? Does he travel for employment business?

Also curious as to why you had a baby with him a year before you even had met his first set of children? Just seems to me that someone about to tie herself to a man (for at least 18yrs due to child/children together) who already had two children would want to know what type of father he's been to his children and whether or not his children were civilized little human beings.

Dontknowwhyaminthissloppymess's picture

DH was married when I met him I only found out when our child was 6 mnths old I then decided to dump him, he was sleeping at my place and I went through his phone, yes I admit that i was dumb to not have seen that this man was married. I had just broken up with an ex so I wasn't looking for anything stable i was just crushed over my ex so i was drinking a lot, partying then DH came along and I really didn't question things.

After dumping him and trying to move on with my life he came back begged me to take him back, left his marital home and moved to another place and we hooked up again. Please note that yes this makes a horrible woman, slut mistress but I was hooked at that point I was in love with this man, still am.So the one day he went to fetch his kids from the marital home in the morning to take them to school the BM stepbrother stabbed him 8 times and he landed in hospital, BM tried to kill him for his life insurance now that he had left her. After he came back from hospital he went back to his marital home and kicked out the BM and her rest of her family that was staying there. A while after that I then met the skids. This situation is messed up I know and I know it could explain the attitude from the skids that am the whore that stole their mothers husband but I didn't and will never attempt to kill anyone.

And DH doesn't travel for work the week that he doesn't see his bio is the week that the skids come over and I leave and go to my own place.

ChiefGrownup's picture

Yes, dear, leave this man and get your life quiet and stable for awhile. Don't date or party. Work out some educational and professional goals you can work on. You will be able to provide a better life for your child and set a good example for her/him. This man will come chasing after you but you haven't got time for him anymore.

When you have lived quiet and stable for awhile and moved up the ladder in the rest of your life, you will find there is nothing that will make you want lose that. Then you will meet and date a better kind of man. You won't let anyone into your life that doesn't meet your new standards.

Don't look back. This guy has brought nothing but trouble into your life. He's your child's father, but nothing more. Your child will come to terms one day with what kind of man he is and, thank heaven, will have a much better example of how to live life in you.

Best wishes.

Dontknowwhyaminthissloppymess's picture

Thanks for your comment Chiefgrownup, am actually in a very good position at the moment and am still studying part time the only low in my life is with this man actually .........building up the courage to let go its been a day and I broke up with him for other reasons *sigh*

Definitely could use having some me time