What to do
So wife's 3 year old has been acting out. Throwing tantrums. My dad took care of her and she spit at him. A couple of weeks ago she kick my niece on the head then kick her cousin who is 6 months in the head. I was in shock and horror when I found that out. My wife told her don't do that that's not nice. I was like that's it. Your not going to put her the Time out or anything. She said no.. I didn't say nothing she is her daughter. But I feel like she let her run a muck.
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I have a 3 year old daughter
I have a 3 year old daughter and if she ever behaved like that there would be appropriate consequences. 3 minute time outs work and then asking the toddler why she went to time out and let HER tell you. btw she is your wife but that's HER daughter? Well yes but now you're a family unit and so your opinion should be heard.
Yeah that's what I thought. I
Yeah that's what I thought. I just don't want to step on her toes. I try to tell her something before but my wife said the tone in my voice was to harsh.. So I kinda stop saying anything.
I think you need to talk to
I think you need to talk to your wife about what is and isn't acceptable behaviour and what punishments will occur. You don't need to spank her but removing her form the vicinity is imperative.
And frankly if my spouse told me that speaking firmly to a head kicking child is too harsh... I would remind said spouse that if the child was 10 yrs older it would be assault. And then ask your wife would she like some 6 yr old to kick her daughter in the head? Because this is the same age difference.
The next time you see her do this, take her by the hand or pick her up and take her away and tell her she cannot kick people and play with them. And she is in time-out for 5 minutes. Sit her on a step and stay with her.
The thing is little kids do not learn form people telling them calmly not to do something or being yelled at. They learn that anti-social behaviour means you don't get to socialize.
Yeah. I'm trying to be more
Yeah. I'm trying to be more understanding. I was raise with spanking. But I believe I learn more when my parents talk to me. It's still kinda new for me to be a step. So I'm trying to be there and not trying to over step bounds. I just want our little one to know it's not okay. When I do tell her something the little one. She tells me she hates me. I'm trying not to let it bother me.but it kinda dose.i just don't want to be the evil step parent. You know.
I told my wife that it bothers me. That she dose stuff like that. She told me it's because there is a lot going on in her little life. With her parents not being together.the new baby and all the changes.
Seriously? There are
Seriously? There are starving kids in third world countries with flies in their eyes who haven't eaten... and even THEIR parents don't let them go kicking other people or babies in the head. So enough with the "we have to protect her wittle fee fees" crap. The sooner she learns her boundaries, the happier everyone will be.
She needs a spanking...trust
She needs a spanking...trust me this will only get worse wait til she has the run of the house when she's a teenager.